Agree with your post!
And should probably clarify that Pippi does not get picked up just becuse we walk past another dog. She gets picked up when she could be in danger. Example is a dog off lead who charged us and th eowner had absolutely no control. So Pippi was removed from harms way. I am sure th eother dog was friendly, the owner said he was "ok", unfortunately, my girl is not ok and the instant he was in reach, he would have had her jaws all up in his face. He was bigger and if he had of retaliated she would have been injured so she gets picked up.
But, if the other dog shes going ape at is on a lead or under control or whatever, then no, she stays on the ground. And there is actually no talking during the process, or patting. She is up, we move away and then shes straight back on the ground.
But I do agree with you post, its all in the way its done and how oyu speak to them etc etc. I also agree, its about danger and if its real then safety first otherwise leave em.
What I meant be my first post is a chat with small dog owners about how to avoid them feeling insecure/aggressive etc and not mollycoddling them because they are cute, is a much more appropriate chat than "dont pick them up when they are scared or aggressive"