I just dropped my daughter off with her paternal grandmother for 2 days. And she took us out the back where we discovered two little puppies in a small playpen. A cavoodle and a spoodle, bought from the pet shop.
The dogs will never be allowed inside. They had poo-ed all over their bedding, so I think they'd been left in the pen all night on their own. And I cannot really explain all the reasons why I feel so sorry for the dogs. She is like the woman in Keeping up Appearances minus the flamboyance. I don't think she knows anything about dog training and she is often too stubborn to take advice from anyone. Except from a professional, so I am going to do everything I can to persuade her to take the dogs to training.
My 7yo daughter looked downright bewildered when I left her. Couldn't talk to her there, but I bet one of the reasons was that she thought her grandmother would get a rescue dog. And if it were up to my daughter, she would rescue every dog from the pound. Actually "Fostering dogs and cats" is very high on her potential career options list. I know my daughter will also feel very sorry for the pups not being allowed inside. She understands my reasons for having an inside dog and she's pretty switched on. I don't even want to think about how she will react if her gran starts using "old school training techniques"!
The frustrating thing is that I really cannot say much at all. She is my ex mother in law. She would definitely not take advice from me on anything at all. And I need to do everything I can to keep our relationship civil, which is hard enough as it is without me criticizing her about the dogs - no matter how diplomatically I try to do it.
She has got the dogs now - after I sent her all the rescue dog info and a list of 'low shedding breeds' (no DDs on that list! ). Nothing I can do about that now. And I hope that I'm overreacting about how she will treat them. They may just end up having a lovely life there. At least they have eachother!