I'd just like to thank Kavik for the extreme patience and good humour she's shown so far. It's disappointing to see the new thread also turn into an argument and I'm sorry for my part in that.
While I believe everyone means well, I'd love to see less of people jumping down others' throats. It's hard to convey tone through type so think carefully before posting. People should not be afraid to ask for advice - reserve your judgment for the people who really deserve it, or keep it to yourself.