Righteo, thanks all. I am understanding a bit more, I think. Lol.
I guess I'm also not that aware of how other families live with their dogs. I mean I know there are little turds out there, as I recall dogs who've hade their tails run over on purpose, and all sorts of cruelty from children. It's sickening, and I know it happens a lot.
My boys give their mates a complete run-down of what they can and can't do with Inca. The yougest is a bossy little bugger (must take after his father ) so his friends just automatically do what he tells them. The eldest is a 6 foot 7 inch giant who no-one 'bucks' and his friends who come here are very respectful boys, not only of my son but of the dog also.
When playing basketball, even his friends don't mind stopping the game every few minutes to help my son teach Inca to push the ball back when a shot hasn't gone in! I find it highly amusing and an ingenious idea, and they seem to as well.
I guess I was hoping to hear from parents with children who still don't leave their kids unsupervised with their dog, so then I could really try and understand...