I know, that's what we were joking about
I know, that's what we were joking about
I really do hope things work out for you all....I know it must be hard my OH has two daughters a 4yo and 2yo it is very hard as we only get the every weekend and their mother refuses to apply the same set out rules as we do.
Nothing dramatic of course just general stuff like eating/drinking at the table, not allowed in the cupboards, have to use manners, ask for food/drinks etc.
It must be so confusing for the children.
On top of it all I know it must be hard for you. I myself am only 21 and have recently left my teens years. I was depressed, angry at everything and would take it out on my mum.
I took drugs (pot), started smoking ciggerettes when I was 13, used to go out until all hours of the night without telling her when I would be home etc etc.
Now however my mum is my best friend and we are both their for each other.
There is a light at the end of the tunnel Tkay Best of luck
I agree with DA, parenting is such a tough gig.
One of my SIL's drives me nuts. She's a social worker and thinks she knows everything about how kids should be raised. You can't learn everything from text books, you need to experience it to truly know what it's like to be a parent.
My daughter is 19 now...the middle child. I think she has been a "teenager" since she was 9! Screaming session...staying out at night not knowing where she was...locking herself in her room sitting on the net...lots of lying...I won't go into it any further
She has had a rough time at school...learning difficulty...being extremely down over this...saying she is stupid etc. She ended up in relationships with 2 different boys that were less than nice.
In December 2008 she found herself a job after doing her Cert. 2 in Hospitality. She still has that job and it has done wonders for her...giving her responsibilities and a sense of life. She recently met a very sweet boy...he is 20. It is quite obvious they really like each other and this boy has ADHD and takes medication. It is like there is a deeper understanding between them...an understanding of feeling "left out" because you are not quite like everybody else...an understanding that it is ok...I know what it is like.
It is devastating seeing your child suffer and not being able to help...the sense of helplessness is heartbreaking! I wanted so badly to help my daughter when she was in tears saying..."I just don't get it Mum...I don't know what the teachers are talking about". It is so hard when you can see...your child is definitely NOT stupid, but everybody else have judged her that way.
We take one day at a time...some days are better then others.
I sincerely hope your son is doing better TKay
When I went back to Denmark and met my nephews....I was devastated. Here were 2 gorgeous boys...completely out of control and you could see they were screaming for some sort of attention...ANY attention. I remember looking after my little nephew when sister and BIL went out to play poker again...........! Nephew was in the shower and he came out...bleeding from his fingers. I asked what had happened and he wouldn't tell me. I went to shower and there was sister's razorblade and he had been cutting his fingers... He had also shaved a spot of his hair off (it was hidden under the hood of his bathrobe).
My point is.....unless you are a parent...you have got NO idea what it is like, so try and minimise your lectures until you actually know what you are talking about
The Emos from when I was at school hung in packs. Anyone who couldn't make friends were always handed over to the Emo crew. And they swapped boyfriends/girlfriends constantly.
...I think they were a cult.
Education not Legislation
I love UN -emoing emo's they meet me wearing black and being somber then within days they are happy and wearing some colour and enjoying themselves It's such a pisser.. my 18 year old cracks up at how I can influence them so easily.
Most of those kids are just looking for acceptance.. they are normally pretty unhappy, misunderstood and often victims of themselves and others.
It's like pass-the-boy. Someone breaks up, the next day another girl got her hands on him. It's surprising, since none of the guys are good catches (IMO). But then again, to each their own. But you would never find me dating one of the guys from my group, it's just way too freaky. I've come to think of them as brothers... or at least to some extent.
Oh the boyfriend and girlfriend swapping thing is so true with the ****ty/jock group at my school. They judge everyone else for having male friends but they openly announce they are 'friends with benefits'
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