And we're grateful you found this board too! I think quite a few people here have people problems, which is why we are all such a supportive bunch, and why we love our dogs so dearly.
It's been the best "therapy" for me, that's for sure !! No financial outlay & you're all "in" to advise/counsel/support 24/7. I think those of us with problems that have been brave enough to take a deep breath & post despite our fears have been pleasantly relieved & surprised at the support we've received. And yes, the one thing that ties us all together is our love for our pooches, and some horses and birds and snakes and spiders .....
I completely agree. I've been in therapy since I was three (you heard correctly) and on medication since I was 12. Believe me, the best thing I ever did for myself was join this forum. I'm not ashamed of my mental illnesses, I'm not ashamed of the horrific abuse I suffered, and I'm not ashamed to wear a bikini even if people do point and stare. (I have burns and scars from abuse.) This forum has raised my self esteem so much. I can tell my story without judgement, I can help others and I can learn to be a better pet owner. Writing down my sufferings has been a real 'release' to me. Also, you don't have that uncomfortableness you endure when you say this to peoples' face.
I've never been one for making NY resolutions, but this year I have decided I WILL have some goals and I WILL follow them through!
Firstly, I'm going to lose the 5 or 6 kilos that have crept on in the last few months, and TRY to lose a few more....so I'm not going on a diet, I'm going on a BUDGET! Which means no fast food, no snacks etc, if it's not in my kitchen I can't eat it, and with the nearest supermarket 40kms away I never crave anything that much to make an 80km round trip!
Secondly, get on top of the garden which is overwhelming me at the moment (it's only 3 acres, how hard can that be?)
Thirdly, get my dog grooming business up and running so I can afford to keep taking in rescues!
The most comforting thing for me (& the most impressive) has been the non-judgemental attitude of the forum members to sensitive issues. For the most part, everyone is very respectful, especially in the area of mental health & people's personal life experiences.
For those of us that have suffered & endured abuse, the hardest thing is to find acceptance & validation of your situation & to really be heard ... without judgement. Most of us just want someone to listen to us, believe that it happened & not judge us for the life decisions we have made as a consequence of the abuse.
It's most distressing that this silent & very cruel epidemic is still happening. It destroys lives & creates wounded souls that then go on to be abusers themselves.
Not all that are abused abuse...You know that right?
I think if you clean out your food environment of naughty temptations that put the weight on, you're already ahead of the game. If it's not there, you can't snack on it. A bit of an easy weight loss "tip" if you're up for it .... don't eat past 7 pm, no "if's, but's or maybes". If you get hungry, water, water, water. Just by sticking to this rule, it will make the weight loss that much easier. Losing weight is as challenging as staying off the ciggies, so I'm all for supporting you with whatever help you need.
With your garden project .... how do you eat an elephant ?? One piece at a time. I suggest you set yourself a daily or weekly schedule to carve out a section for clearing & just get it done. Should help with your weight loss project as well.
Can we help with getting your dog grooming biz off the ground ?? A problem shared is a problem halved you know ....
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