I'd love to know what opinions other owners (and their families) hold regarding the family dog.
I'm 41 and for 31 of those years I've always lived with GS dogs. Growing up, they belonged to my father. Sure, they loved us kids and my mother, would obey our commands any time they were given one, and spend lots of time with us, but they were my father's. He was always their "Master", not only in his eyes, but ours as well as the dogs!
As an adult, dogs I've shared my life with were always owned by me - I was the "Master." My first husband had very little experience with dogs, and although he grew to adore the dogs, it was once again fairly obvious whose dogs they were.
Now my second husband has no experience with dogs whatsoever! My eldest son spent some of his life growing up with the GSD's, so he does.
My eldest started an interesting convo the other day about who will this new puppy truly belong to. I stated that he/she will belong to all of us, he/she will be the family's dog. Son pointed out that won't work. He pointed out that I feed it, I refill it's water bowl all day and night, I groom it, I train it, I walk it, I am the only one home that it will spend every minute of it's day with, day in and day out. His point was that whether I think so or not, I will be it's Master.
I agree with my son. I have no doubt that's how it will turn out. It's the same with the new cat. Wherever I go, she follows me, whatever I do, she wants to be there doing it too. Not quite the same with the others yet.
Hubby really can't comprehend this. Although he is happy to acknowledge that it really is my dog, as I want it so badly, I'm the one prepared to do everything for and with it (hell, it's MY Christmas present!) he still doesn't seem able to understand. How do I explain it to him?
And how do others deal with this within their family heirarchy?
*Sorry for the loooooooong post*