Last edited by puggerup; 12-31-2009 at 10:52 AM.
I don't know. I understand what you are saying and I hope that the dog isn't in pain etc. It doesn't sound well at all but I guess death is so final and well I just don't know. It would be a hard decision to make thats for sure. At least they are getting her the appropriate medical attention and not just putting their heads in the sand like some people do. Sadly I hope she dies soon on her own too.
From what you've explained, it seems impossible to say its not her time.
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I have been here and I waited too long. I would almost give my right arm to have ended Blackie's life before I did. I too looked at the good signs, hoped and failed him.
A few years later my mother was facing the same thing with her dog. I told her my story, my regret and to please do what you need to when your head says it is time, not your heart. She rang me one day to tell me she thinks it is time and he was put to sleep in his beloved backyard by the vet with my mum, sister and her cat and dog with him. She rang afterwards to thank me, that no matter how hard it had been for her, she knew it was best for him and that she drew comfort from my story knowing she did not make the same mistake.
I hope so much he is in no pain and his time comes gently.
Last edited by Di_dee1; 11-01-2009 at 08:58 PM.
Yea, but I know the pain they will feel. It never really leaves you and clouds your memories with this guilt. maybe print this out and show them with my plea, so they will not have to go through the hindsight guilt that I did. Blackie died 7 years ago and it is my failing that I first think about when I remember him.
Last edited by Di_dee1; 11-01-2009 at 09:36 PM.
Something like this happened with my mum's dog which was supposed to be my sister's dog but my sister moved interstate and the dog stayed. Anyway, the dog had gone deaf and had started going blind but could still manage by sense of smell. It was drinking extreme amounts of water, and having a great deal of difficulty lying down and getting up again but each time anyone in the room got up - it would make the effort... The dog was in serious trouble - she'd sunbake on concrete tiles in the middle of Summer, and I didn't like the idea of my mum coming home from a day out to find a cooked dog in her back yard.
This was all before Christmas a few years back. My mum didn't put the dog down then because my sister was coming over for Christmas. My sister - could clearly see how uncomfortable the dog was and she piked out of doing the right thing too. A few weeks after Christmas - Mum rang me and said it's time to put the dog down - by then the dog couldn't find it's dinner bowl but would belt around the yard crashing into things looking for it. No hearing, no sight, no smell, and really stiff (sore?) joints. Eek.
I said - ring my brother - he'd spent a lot of times on farms, and not alot of time with that dog so he'd be best. I didn't want to have the association of putting dog to sleep on MY BIRTHDAY. Thanks a bunch Mum. Fortunately my brother did help take the dog to the vet and get everything sorted. It was a huge relief for all of us, but our regret and my sister's shame was - it didn't get done before Christmas that year.
A lady who walks her dog on the same oval as me, had a really decrepit cat around 22 yo - wow. And yet she wouldn't take it to the vet to get PTS either. Eventually it died by itself - but I think it's quality of life was terrible for the last few months - also blind, deaf, stiff joints etc.
So when you start thinking it's about the right time and putting it off, it's probably about a month after the right time. I hope I remember that when it's my dog's time.
It's sad that so many owners seem to do what is best for their feelings, not always what is best for the dog. They obviously love her so much, they can't bear the thought of parting from her.
Here's a point to perhaps give them...
What if it was them?
Would they choose to continue living a quality of life like that?
Or would they choose to concede they have had a good life and now it is time for the next journey to begin?
Oh the poor old girl
Maybe try and gently talk to them about just how much pain or discomfort he is in ? or maybe have the vet tell them ? Is there anyone that they listen to in particular ?
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Thats really sad...
After my dog was PTS I dug up old photos of him and even though his health deteriorated quickly looking through the photos made me realise how bad he was looking in his old age.
Do you have any photos or anything you can bring out and kinda mention how bad he is looking? Remember that they see him everyday and if he gets a little worse each day they wouldn't notice as much as you would seeing him once a week/month etc??
I don't know if this helps, just wanted to throw another idea out there.
Good luck and hopefully they will make the right decision.
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