Seven months ago we adopted a 9-month old ACD-cross who we love and adore. He's basically been pretty easy to train although he loves to chew things up - we can live with that. We got him a companion dog (mixed breed, they say lab / german shepherd cross] also from the RSPCA six weeks ago. They said she's 4, our vet said 3-ish. RSPCA said she had been found on the side of the highway, terrified. We picked her pretty much on the basis that she got along with our ACD - similar size and energy levels. They love each other and play together beautifully - in that respect she is just what we wanted.
I'm at the absolute end of my tether with her though in regards to her toilet habits including submission weeing. My husband is about to give up on her and is becoming very intolerant. A few examples - our ACD was at the vet's due to a tick bite, and as is is getting cold we thought we'd let the other sleep inside by herself. She scoffed a loaf of heavy sourdough off the kitchen bench (in itself kind of cute] and consequently my husband arrived home yesterday afternoon to two massive poos on the verandah area where they are left during the day. He took her outside after removing her from the verandah and she wet herself all through the house en route to the front door (I understand this is submission wee-ing]. ACD came back from vet's yesterday and we put them in the bathroom to sleep (they sleep together]. Two massive craps and wees across the bathroom floor. I spent 35 minutes cleaning that up and went to have my shower - to see her just outside the bathroom preparing to take a dump on the tiles. I caught her just as it started and my husband grabbed her to take her outside (I did yell also] and yes she then wees all over the floor. She had been outside with the other dog for over an hour before that, so no excuse for either???
I've done the ignoring her when I get home and taking them straight outside with no fuss - the ACD does his business but she just jumps around me manically - the other day I ignored her till she sat, and then patted her, and so she starting weeing herself lying down!!!
I've read a truckload about not yelling at them etc reinforcing the good behaviour when they do go outside etc, but zero progress it seems.
Usually we put them in the crate on the verandah to sleep. On Sunday morning, when the other dog was at the vets, she had done a poo in the crate. She's done that before with him in there as well (I'm assuming it was her].
Sometimes she gets through the day on the verandah without messing, but it's hit and miss. We have no choice but to leave them there as we both work plus it's a large enough area for them to play and be safe. Even if they were outside during the day it's not really fixing the problem.
We have tried the quiet calm talking with her, giving her lots of love, not yelling, ignoring her when getting home etc, but she does not seem to be improving. She is also very jumpy and when you arrive home she twists and turns her body madly - I'm trying to say she's not very self confident. She also sticks her head in your face if you are sitting down at the table, demanding attention. We have tried ignoring her, pushing her away, saying no etc etc. She hasn't stopped that at all.
My husband seems to think there is no hope for her, and I have spent the morning looking at dog behaviourists etc (but not sure of the right one for us in Brisbane]. I fear my husband is contemplating the gas chamber for her. That would be devastating for all I think.
She does has many lovely qualities - when you get her to sit she will just sit there and enjoy being stroked, very calmly. But the house is turning into her toilet and my husband is losing respect for her and say she has no respect for us (this is his theory].
Any ideas or advice most gratefully received as I want to see her "come good". I do not want to give up on her.
Trying to be a good mum!