I do want to control my dog so she is pleasant to be around both for me and other people. She doesn't get consequences and dangers so learning to 'come 'and 'stop' and 'leave it' are devices to keep her safe. I can't take to Cesare Milan because he is so convinced he is always right and no one is, a little humility goes a long way when dealing with another species. I much prefer firmness to alpha dominance over a dog that will just become fearful.
If they are scared whoever is training them has missed their way as far as I am concerned. (Mind you Maggie has never snitched a book off the bookshelf since the heavy Excel For Dummies fell off the shelf and landed by her nose with a very large thud!.. she shrieked and ran.. dangerous things books)
When we raise out children we learn from many sources and no one way is the right way for every child even within a family group so why on earth would one way be right for every dog! I expect to learn how to train Maggie from several sources, this forum being one of them. I listen to advice and filter it with my common sense and knowledge of my dogs temperament and preferences.
It is not either/ or for me, I can probably learn something from both Cesar and Victoria, but wouldn't take everything they propose as necessarily useful.