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    Quote Originally Posted by ChoppaChop View Post
    Sorry Riley , but not 'all' dogs can be retrained when it comes to anxiety issues .
    Really - well I disagree! The pup that I have now - had a hell of a lot of other issues - anxiety was just one - when he first came here !

    The only reason I kept him was that my little girl loved him to bits - and - I got another two years with her. He was a lot of work ! He hated being in the yard, would jump/climb fences - just to bugger off, hated males - humans - really big time and anything I had in my hand - regardless - he would either run away or hit the deck !

    Now- with the help of heaps of people and him finally trusting me - yes I know he is not perfect - but I love him ! He is able to patted on the head, does woo-woos to people now that he wants to say hello to. He hasn't embarrassed me for a while - oh - other than doing woo-woos to the RBT team a couple of days ago.

    Plus - he is quite happy to stay in the yard and if I have to go out without him - he doesn't wreck the house.

    Time and patience - does really work wonders !

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    Thanks for the support everyone

    I really do feel like I have done all I can, I have tried two behaviour specialists as well and I have followed everything I possibly can, but nothing seems to break this tie that Buddy and I have (I've also tried a thundershirt, leaving my own clothing in his kennel, plenty of exercise before and during the day etc etc). And, the fact that now I am having neighbour / council issues does not help either. Regardless of what sort of training I try next - I still need to leave him at home alone for a period of time.. which will start the crying and the gate destruction all over again. It really is an emotional thing for both myself and Buddy.. and to tell you the truth part of the reason my husband left me was because I pretty much gave myself over to looking after Buddy, and making sure HE was happy full time instead of those around me. Sounds pretty horrible when I type that.. but it's the truth. And now I am even more limited with my care for Buddy (I do not have that extra financial support with day care or training, or even the car so I can not even visit family because I cannot leave Buddy at home alone)

    Buddy is a happy boy, although he does seem more focussed on what I am doing, where I am at, if I'm happy etc.. it doesn't seem normal to me for a dog to be this way, and I can't imagine that he is relaxed and completely happy in this state.

    I haven't actually mentioned any price for him, and of course there is no hurry in re-homing him - I couldn't bare for him to go 'to just anybody', and I would love to have some sort of contact with the new owners on a regular basis just to see how he is going etc. They would definately have to have all the right criteria for me to feel OK with parting with my boy and I would have some sort of screening process

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    i owned staffys for years good loving dogs
    have you tryed the thunder shirt on him
    If you are reading this then you're doing just fine as to
    I'm not going to tell ya I lost the ' , . ? ! " Keys to my head
    No grammar no problem I don't know how to fly it any way Bye

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    RileyJ - this has been an ongoing thing since day one. I've tried all sorts of methods, followed all sorts of advice from so called 'experts'.. and now I am on my own it's almost impossible to keep going. I do not want to give up Buddy at all, but I really do not feel I can do anything else for him! I need to have a life myself (that isn't selfish isn't it?) and since day one all I literally do is go to work and come home straight after as Buddy gets dropped off from day care. I can not even go shopping for an hour or so on weekends, so I need to do online shopping! I have given over my life for him so to speak.

    Buddy was originally from staffy rescue and I had noticed the separation anxiety he had for SR's previous owner when we picked him up that day, and I even had mentioned it to her and she basically told me that it was nothing to worry about and it will all be OK when he's settled in a few weeks etc. It is obvious that Buddy has had this issue previously before me, and I have done my best for him.

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    Hi Ruby - yes Buddy has a thundershirt which I have tried using on him with no results unfortunately.

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    Before it gets out of hand, can we please not get into an argument over the morality of rehoming the dog. It is not helpful.

    This is a last resort and once people post here they have well and truly made up their mind. The only really important issue is that this dog finds the home he deserves. He clearly isn't a dog for just anyone, so hopefully someone here might know someone who can provide him with the right environment. He sounds like a lovely dog apart from his anxiety issue.

    I hope the rescue org can help, but frankly it sounds like they were in denial about the issue when they let you adopt him. They should have specified that he needed a home where someone is home most of the time or with a doggy companion.

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    I really feel for you Natalie, but agree that finding the right home for Buddy sounds like it will be the best outcome for both of you.

    Buddy sounds like he'd be happy with someone who's retired but still active, or maybe a family where dad has a workshop on the home property or mum works from a home office, maybe with kids or another dog. Like you say, he loves day care, he is just a social dog who doesn't cope being alone. Sounds like he'd be the perfect dog to live in a retirement village, wandering around getting spoilt by the residents.

    You sound like you could use a break yourself, take care yes, you have done your best for him ...

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    Im sorry it has come to this for you both, how sad.
    But trust you know what is best for you and yours.

    Nobody can say you didnt try your best here.
    I agree, not all dogs can be trained to overcome this.

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    Findeb - yes that sounds perfect for him! It's what I am hoping for really

    Beloz - re staffy rescue - they have changed hands now and from what I've heard seem to be a lot more helpful where things like this are concerned (rather than trying to rehome immediately without filling in the new owners with info on their issues etc). So fingers crossed they can be of some assistance

    And thank you Bernie

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