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    Hi,

    I have an 8 year old desexed male staffy. I also have an 18 month old daughter.
    My husband will not let them be together, even supervised.

    The dog was our baby and never really had any expereience with kids and basically lived inside until around 2 years ago.
    We just moved to a new house that is only fenced in one area so the dog is left down the back on his own and is not even at the back door. Where he has been in our last house when he was no longer inside. I can't really go down there as I am looking after our child (who loves the dog, from a distance). he acts very indifferent about her, but definetly no aggression.

    The dog is a bit bored and has always been very highly strung and while rarely barks, does chase his tail and bark when there are loud noises like lawn mowers etc. i am concerned he is going to send the neighbours crazy. i am concerned that he is bored and lonely and not getting the attention he deserves.

    I have tried to discuss introducing the dog to our child but my husband said its on my head if he bites her, so i can't go through with that.

    I have always considered getting a dog to be a life long responsibility but our circumstances have changed so much I am considering rehoming him. But only if i could find the right home.

    I would get him a friend but he hates all other animals. He only loves humans.

    Can anyone offer advice on what we could do, who we could contact to ask for advice? Its like having 2 families that cannot mix. I wondered if in 6 months or so she might be big enough to mix...

    Just don't know what to do

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    Sorry, i also wanted to add that my daughter can't play outside because the dog is there as well. So its not good for her.

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    Default Advice needed for 8 year old staffy

    Hi,

    I have an 8 year old desexed male staffy. I also have an 18 month old daughter.
    My husband will not let them be together, even supervised.

    The dog was our baby and never really had any expereience with kids and basically lived inside until around 2 years ago.
    We just moved to a new house that is only fenced in one area so the dog is left down the back on his own and is not even at the back door. Where he has been in our last house when he was no longer inside. I can't really go down there as I am looking after our child (who loves the dog, from a distance). he acts very indifferent about her, but definetly no aggression.

    The dog is a bit bored and has always been very highly strung and while rarely barks, does chase his tail and bark when there are loud noises like lawn mowers etc. i am concerned he is going to send the neighbours crazy. i am concerned that he is bored and lonely and not getting the attention he deserves.

    I have tried to discuss introducing the dog to our child but my husband said its on my head if he bites her, so i can't go through with that.

    I have always considered getting a dog to be a life long responsibility but our circumstances have changed so much I am considering rehoming him. But only if i could find the right home.

    I would get him a friend but he hates all other animals. He only loves humans.

    Can anyone offer advice on what we could do, who we could contact to ask for advice? Its like having 2 families that cannot mix. I wondered if in 6 months or so she might be big enough to mix...

    Just don't know what to do

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    sounds like your husband needs to be educated on introducing dogs and kids......

    if you trust the dog then there should be no reason why they cant interact, supervised of course.....

    has the dog bitten anyone before?

    its unfair for the pooch to be left outside with no human contact at all.... staffies love being around people... mine follows me around like a tail.... he doesnt like being outside when we are inside.... they can also become quite destructive when bored, so that will send your husband around the bend even more.....

    if he is still saying that they cant interect, then its only fair that your dog goes somewhere where it can get the attention it deserves.
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    I am in the Hunter Valley NSW

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    I get the impression you do not trust your dog? Your husband hasn't said not to allow them to mix, he has just said, it is on you, and that makes you uncomfortable which means you don't trust the dog.

    In all honesty I wouldn't blame the dog if it has a negative association with your child. When she was born the dog was kicked out of the house and out of the family, he never got a chance to be taught that having a child around was a good thing.

    Before buying a dog this should have been a discussion you and your partner had, what happens when we have a child. Because what you have done to this dog is disgusting.

    I would contact Staffy rescues and local rescues in your area and surrender him to one, so that he can find a home where he will get the love and attention he deserves in his senior years. I am not sure what State you are located in but if you google Dog rescue and Staffy rescue and your area I am sure you will be able to get in contact with some.

    I truly hope you do the right thing by this dog and give it the opportunity to have a life it deserves.

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    I am hoping someone well versed with dog/ child experience can give you advice. It is a situation that I have witnessed on a numbe of occasions - dog is the cherished child and is then bannished outside as soon as the human child arrived. Dog is ignored and goes quietly mad and ends up doing something innapropriate.

    I also know situations where a lot of effort was put in before the child arrived and responsibility was taken to give the dog exercise. Where is your husband in all of this? A husband I knew made the committment to run the dog till it dropped every night after it bit the postman in its frustration at being ignored, not exercised and isolated from the family unit and things much improved.

    Getting another dog is very rarely the answer as you then have double the resposibility. I even had one person I know consider breeding their dog so the dog could have pups at the same time as they had a baby to keep the dog occupied. I told them exactly what I thought of that idea.

    So it is not an uncommon problem and I will be interested to see what advice people on this fourum come up with.
    Last edited by Kalacreek; 07-09-2012 at 09:39 AM.

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    Like Rayzor said - you and your partner need to introduce the dog slowly to your daughter, let her pat your dog with supervision. I can relate to you
    we have a 2 years old son and 7 months old Amstaff - we normally play at the backyard, but we also built her an excellent space of enclosure so we can
    all go out the backyard, if we know we will busy doing things (precaution) we are learning each day.

    With regards of barking or getting bored - give him something to play with and make sure that he also uses his ability to think. Then take him for a walk even
    30 minutes a day and 30 minutes playing with him, also train him to have stay in one area if you him inside the house again. Our dog is now trained to stay on her bed in the rumpus area if told even with our son playing in his play pen.


    there are a lot of things that you can do, and the problem you posted are things normally can be controlled without stress. GOODLUCK and hopefully everythin pans out positively.
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    Hi OP

    before thinking of rehoming your staffy - let other people try to post on your other THREAD, then you and your partner try to learn from it and APPLY it.
    You do not know if it will work or not without trying. Give your staffy another chance, it is sad to see if you rehome her.

    none the less I am happy to take her if you can deliver :-)

    thanks
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    How kind of you pbk ...

    NeedHelp, please try and take the time to include your 8 year old staffy in your family, staffies are such loving family dogs ... he won't understand why he's banned to the back of the garden after 8 years of being an inside dog, that's really sad. He'll love your daughter and she'll have so much fun with him.

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