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    Sadly it sounds as if the poor dog is already bannished and I cannot see the partner coming to this party anytime soon

    Staffs dont always rehome well as they are so,so loving and he will be very bonded with you.....however .... in this situation I would be considering rehoming to the correct home. He needs to be an only dog obviously , but could possibly be fine with older children ( more than likely will be would be my bet as he has not reacted to your small child.

    It really is such a shame to see the 'baby' of the unit tossed to the side for the 'real' baby when it arrived
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    I do appreciate all comments but just to clarify...

    - The dog wasnt put outside because of the child - we moved to a rental where he was not allowed inside. But at that time he was still at the back of the house and mostly in my husbands shed (where he is most of the time).
    - No the dog has not bitten anyone before. But is very agressive to other dogs. Just concerned because shes smaller than him and he's so strong. i was interested in introducing them, my husband is not.
    - The main problem started 1 month ago when we moved to a new house that is not fully fenced.
    - he is still getting human contact, from my husband in the evenings, but i hate that I can' take my daughter out and play in the yard with him. We are locked inside and him out.
    - Sorry but 8 years ago, a child was the farthest thing from our minds,. i didn't actually want a log but grew to love him like a child.

    is there anywhere I can get advice from a professional about mixing them?

    - We have let her pat him through a fence and he was fine, but my husband just will not let them run around the back yard together. His parents have harped at him that you can never trust a dog.

    Thank you for your responses.

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    Quote Originally Posted by needhelp View Post
    I do appreciate all comments but just to clarify...

    - - he is still getting human contact, from my husband in the evenings, but i hate that I can' take my daughter out and play in the yard with him. We are locked inside and him out.
    - Sorry but 8 years ago, a child was the farthest thing from our minds,. i didn't actually want a log but grew to love him like a child.

    is there anywhere I can get advice from a professional about mixing them?

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    He also needs exercise from your husband. Kept away from contact and exercise for most of the day is not a way for a dog to live really as well as you and your child being confined to the house. As you said the situation is far from ideal.

    I also realise that when you got him children were distant in your mind but I guess there is always a possibility especially as the time draws near and that is where some pre planning would probably have been in order along with advice from a professional. But that is hindsight now.

    However I think that you would be wise to find a professional if you can to deal with the current situation if you are both committed to exploring the possibilities. Hopefully someone here can help with this and give you a good contact.

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    I think your problem is beyond what we can do over the internet. You can't leave your baby to train the dog and you're not game to risk them together in the same space even if you're supervising.

    Your husband and inlaws seem completely paranoid about what your dog might do to your child. There a lot of ways for a child to get hurt, and the dog is only one of them.

    My brother has a staffy from before he started a family - he was very careful about training his staffy to be good with children and in particular his babies - they're both school age now. But you and your husband opted not to do this - so you have limited what you can do with the dog. And it seems like you're not willing to try - either of you.

    So I think you're right, it's not fair on the dog. You - as a couple - have made repeated decisions - house choices, training choices, family choices that have progressively pushed the dog out of your life. A dog could be great for your family, alert you to strangers, be good for teaching your child to be comfortable and well behaved around animals and not scared to death of them, but it seems if you and your husband are scared of the dog, that's not going to happen.

    So if you want to keep the dog, you need to get help from a behaviourist who can assess the dog and your family situation and help you decide whether to go the training route, or rehome the dog.

    Chances of finding a new home for a dog aggressive 8yo SBT are fairly small. Especially one that does not have ANKC papers. If he does have ANKC papers, you might consider contacting his breeder and asking for help, or the SBT club and rescue in your state. But it's hard because so many people who rescue dogs, have dogs of their own and taking on a dog aggressive SBT puts their own dogs in danger.

    If I was in your situation, as a first option, I would call or email Steve Courtney at K9pro and discuss getting help. If he's not available he should be able to recommend someone in your area or state. His contact details are here: K9 Pro The K9 Professionals; Online Dog Shop

    It's not just the dog that would need retraining.

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    I have merged the threads. Rehome is more appropriate than Rescue because - as far as I know - this dog is not in the pound already on death row.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hyacinth View Post
    I have merged the threads. Rehome is more appropriate than Rescue because - as far as I know - this dog is not in the pound already on death row.
    yes, sorry i posted in the wrong spot. He is definetly not on death row and still a loved member of our family i just dont think he is getting as much love as he should be or used to.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hyacinth View Post
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    I think your problem is beyond what we can do over the internet. You can't leave your baby to train the dog and you're not game to risk them together in the same space even if you're supervising.

    Your husband and inlaws seem completely paranoid about what your dog might do to your child. There a lot of ways for a child to get hurt, and the dog is only one of them.

    My brother has a staffy from before he started a family - he was very careful about training his staffy to be good with children and in particular his babies - they're both school age now. But you and your husband opted not to do this - so you have limited what you can do with the dog. And it seems like you're not willing to try - either of you.

    So I think you're right, it's not fair on the dog. You - as a couple - have made repeated decisions - house choices, training choices, family choices that have progressively pushed the dog out of your life. A dog could be great for your family, alert you to strangers, be good for teaching your child to be comfortable and well behaved around animals and not scared to death of them, but it seems if you and your husband are scared of the dog, that's not going to happen.

    So if you want to keep the dog, you need to get help from a behaviourist who can assess the dog and your family situation and help you decide whether to go the training route, or rehome the dog.

    Chances of finding a new home for a dog aggressive 8yo SBT are fairly small. Especially one that does not have ANKC papers. If he does have ANKC papers, you might consider contacting his breeder and asking for help, or the SBT club and rescue in your state. But it's hard because so many people who rescue dogs, have dogs of their own and taking on a dog aggressive SBT puts their own dogs in danger.

    If I was in your situation, as a first option, I would call or email Steve Courtney at K9pro and discuss getting help. If he's not available he should be able to recommend someone in your area or state. His contact details are here: K9 Pro The K9 Professionals; Online Dog Shop

    It's not just the dog that would need retraining.
    Stereo typing - this is the problem, your husband and in-laws are scared from the second hand stories and media information about these types of breed. SBT, ASBT and APBT came from the same blood line in history, but none the less it's not an excuse not to try things to fix the problem.

    I really wish that you take Hyacinth's advise - get your dog trained take your family with you when doing the training, there's a lot of information to pick up from a trainer
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    remember that staffies ae known as "nanny dogs" because they are good with kiddies.......that doesnt mean id leave them alone together, as its a case by case thing...... but generaly speaking....

    you could have the worst dog and make him the best dog, it depends how dedicated you are to training etc, which i know in your case may be hard considering hte new bub.......
    youve done the right thing so far by asking for advice
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    Quote Originally Posted by reyzor View Post
    remember that staffies ae known as "nanny dogs" because they are good with kiddies.......that doesnt mean id leave them alone together, as its a case by case thing...... but generaly speaking....

    you could have the worst dog and make him the best dog, it depends how dedicated you are to training etc, which i know in your case may be hard considering hte new bub.......
    youve done the right thing so far by asking for advice
    All dogs no matter the breed need exposure to children to be good with children and dogs of all breeds can be great with children.

    My biggest issue here is that they have done NOTHING to prepare this dog for the arrival of a child and have done nothing to give the dog a positive association with the child. The child is just something that smells different, looks different and that she has never really spent time with.

    We will need to know what area/state you live in to recommend a decent trainer in your area.

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    Here's another thought, why not get him used to a muzzle and then see if your husband will agree to you all spending time together.

    Yep dogs do knock down kids and adults too, but if he's muzzled he can't bite if this is what your husband is worried about.

    Google articles on demagnetising kids and dogs.

    Why can't the dog be on a lead around the child? At least on the weekends can't he be put on a lead and everyone be outside even for half an hour at a time to see how things go?

    There are so many things you could be doing but you know you haven't so please go and find him a good home.

    Dogs are for life, when I purchase a new home fences have to be a consideration. One of the reasons I rarely sell puppies to renters, unless I have references.

    I married into a ready made family and my dogs and the kids had to get on, because there was no way my dogs were going to get locked down the back and there was no way the kids weren't going to be allowed out to play.

    Just because a dog is dog aggressive doesn't mean they are human aggressive, but naturally as things have changed so much for this poor dog he does need to be carefully supervised.

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