Thanks all for the ideas and a few of them we have done and in the end we have come to this conclusion.
Murphy is a pup and when he grows up he will then take notice of what we are asking of him. Our last Heeler was so well trained that I think we are trying to put him into this bracket also, but he is a totally different dog in all ways.
I do train Murphy with treats in the yard and out side of the yard. And to this I have taken him for a lesson and he was quite good, though the boss wants to do his training without the aid of treats, so I will insist that next time she does.
Last training session there were a few fella's kicking the footy and he was zeroed on to the ball, so this didn't help matters.
And I also forgot to mention that after the class the instructor asked if the wife and Murphy wait back. Then the instructor took Murphy thinking that she could get him to do as she wanted.
Big mistake he listened to her like he listen's to the Boss. Murphy is a high energy pup at the moment and he was having nothing of it. And in the end even the instructor said that he will come around in time.
In training at home he is the best, and I mean I ask him to sit and it is right away as with all other comands.
I know he can do it as he does it with me, and I want him to respect the Boss so this is why she is doing it. I might even try to have her feed him a couple of nights before training and see if this improves things.
But I really thank you all for putting in the time to try to help and I have to say I will put a few in place as of tomorrow, as we get our new car today. So it is play time for us.