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    No - I don't know you from Adam - but I spent 3 years working with an aggressive dog and going home crying and force feeding him because he didnt eat and wanting to kill him sometimes and yea - it got to the point where I was on my bed crying - I cant do this anymore. But that passed and he gave me, and more importantly I gave him, another 8 years of love and a wonderful life.

    Learn where I didnt - be calm, learn to read your dogs behaviour and stop thinking that she thinks and acts like a person - she doesn't think like people do - she isn't doing this to spite or annoy you

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    Masha, I think I remember in another thread that people were suggesting that you are perhaps expecting too much too soon. Dora is a puppy, a baby who is learning her way in this world. It will all happen eventually, just don't put too much pressure on her, it's great that you want her to be well-trained but it takes time, lots of time. Plenty of playtime and having fun is more important, the more relaxed and happy she is, the more she will want to please you.

    Keep up with the puppy classes, if she's not enjoying them look around for another class where she might be happier.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Masha View Post
    she got better, right?
    Yes much better...

    But it took time... time and patience and work... I can now walk her without her going off half cocked at any dog we go past...

    Masha this is what we are all trying to tell you... It takes time and there will be days that are worse then others... But keep on ploding through... I would also suggest getting professional help if you are really worried...
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    Masha, I agree with the others, 1 on 1 with another puppy will probably be better for Dora. When I introduced Mollie to Boof, I made sure there was lots of treats and praise and made it as fun as possible..
    Just keep working at it babe, I am in a tough spot too, Mollie is very anti-social, particulary with children (expecially boys), because of a BAD experience with my brother.

    I got terribly upset when she was visibly shaking from just being a couple of feet near my bro or his friends. I have to admit, I cried alot too. I felt that she would never get over it. But now I know, I just have to keep trying.

    Both Mollie and Dora will get better and better everyday. I believe you can do it hunn! X
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    My answer is always the same......Triangle of Temptation. Must be done at every feed and EXACTLY as described, but it works and works quickly by making the dog realise she must ask you for food, toys, play etc. Puts you back in control

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    Sorry SPR - you're dealing with a novice owner and baby puppy. It needs time and calm approaches. Perhaps NILIF but at this stage it's bettter to go gently IMO.

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    Yep, GaG, I was. Bt I immediately dropped my exxpections when I read the responses. I admit, I do still expect a little bit - for her to not bite, to realise that outside is for peeing, not inside and taht she ahs to wait for food.
    The thing is, I AM a novice owner (sorry, on my school laptop, the link you provided Shar is blocked, will check it out later) and Im not very experienced with dogs. Sometimes its just hard for me to be patient. Im not trying to defend myself in anyway here, I'm just stating that it IS hard for me.
    I was in tears by the end of the class... it was just so frustrating.. all these pups were playing nicely and Dora was cowering under a chair, and snapping and growling when they got too close, or when she dared to walk out and check out the situation. I will work on her social skills with one dog at a time, in this case, the 10 year old Daschund. She seems to get along very well with him.
    I'm hoping to work with the Lab pup next, since she seems to dislike him a lot.
    I actually ahd a talk with Mum about all the things I'd like Dora to do when shes older - walk on a lead by my side, not inf ront of me and get along with other dogs.
    My mother doesnt get it.
    How do I explain to her that just because a dog is little doesnt mean it can get away with all the thing a big dog cant - pulling the owner along, biting, growling. She just doesnt get it. She doesnt see the necesity (sp???) of it. And I cant explain it.
    I tell her that I would just like for Dora to do these things. That these two things - her being social with other dogs and walkinng on a lead - are probably all that I want from her. Mum just says that Dora wasn't bred for these things, she (her breed, rather. Or dogs her size mostly) was bred to be an inside dog and give love, and thats it. But, yes, though I DO want that from Dora (who wouldnt?) but that doesnt mean she can get away with beign aggro. towards other dogs.
    How do I explain it to her?

    PS. Feeling heaps more positive, thanks for all this feedback. Hearing your stories made me feel a bit better about my situation. And Demi, I feel for you, Dora is with dogs like Mollie is with your brother and friends.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Occy View Post
    Sorry SPR - you're dealing with a novice owner and baby puppy. It needs time and calm approaches. Perhaps NILIF but at this stage it's bettter to go gently IMO.
    Agree. Sorry Shar, I think this is out of Op's league at present.

    Masha, have you discussed these problems with your parents? What advice have they given you? Are they trying to help?

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    Also, what did the organiser/teacher at the puppy school do when all this happened?

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    try this site for both you and your mum - it is good reading

    www.k9deb.com/nilif.htm

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