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    Okay. Long post!

    When we brought Mollie home,the very next day, my bro (Billy) picked her up and full on shook her! She acted defensively by giving him a nip on his hand and then he dropped her onto the ground.

    Ever since then, she has HATED Billy (I defo. dont blame her!) She growls and barks when he enters the room, but when he takes a step towards her, the brave-barking is left and she runs of shaking and whining.

    Whenever we have people over, she barks and growls at the kids in particular, but when they take a step towards her, she runs off shaking and whining at full speed.

    Its horrible at nighttime, when we all watch a movie or something. Mollie ADORES everyone in teh family, except Billy. She even loves Matilda, My 1yr odl sister, who can be pretty rough with her. She shakes and whines when she is near Billy. I hate this! I wnat my baby to be happy so bad!

    She seems better around adults and female-children around my age && toddlers, of whom she licks and sits while their grubby fingers stroke her.
    But male kids, around my brotehrs age seem to trigger her most.

    She has made friends with several of mums friends, and one of my bestfriends, btu she still is horribly frightened of kids in particular.


    PLEASE help me! I dont want my beautiful girl to be traumatized because of my STUPID cruel brother! I want ehr to be secure and happy. How can I amke thinsg better? Is it possibel to repair the relationship between Mollie and Billy - will that help???
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    Hmmm....perhaps pick your brother up and shake him and see how he likes it?

    Other than that, maybe take Mollie out for walks (once she's had all her vaccs, if she hasn't already - I can't remember how old she is sorry) in well populated areas where there's lots of different people of all ages. Stay calm, even if she panics. Don't make a fuss. Ignore her if necessary. (By ignore her I mean just keep your eyes forward, don't look at her, keep her walking).

    Whatever you do - when she starts crying and shaking and runs off - do not give her affection. I know it's hard, but by giving her affection when she's upset and saying "it's ok" etc you're re-inforcing to her that she should be afraid.

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    Id shake the brat by the neck too. I hope he got a thrashing.

    Just tell him to leave her alone - she will come to him when she is good and ready and he should have treats ready for her when she does.

    With strangers - again - have them ignore her and when she comes over - treats NOT pats.

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    How old is your brother demi? And what punishment did your parents dole out to him?

    And has anyone taken the time to explain to him what he has done wrong?

    You cannot now force your dog to accept your brother or other young boys around his age. To force the issue is only going to make it worse.

    Charlie's mum has given good advice. Do not now make your dog's fear anxiety worse!
    Do all you can to have your brother totally ignore your dog.
    When she whines and barks or carries on and runs off, just ignore her.
    Do not acknowledge this anxiety. When she returns to the room/area where ppl are - and sooner or later she will (might be a lot later, but she WILL) then is the time to give her some attention, although I would ensure at that stage that you back out of the equation and have brother/visitors/guests be the ones to offer her treats.
    See Occy's advice - I agree with what she has said.

    On another token, and please take this the right way, seeing you through the threads I have noticed how young you are. I have also noticed how much you refer to your dog as your baby and such. Is that just a figure of speech, Demi?
    I ask because many, many dogs IMO are totally ruined by owners who treat them as babies and think they are one. Your dog may be tiny at this stage, but make no mistake -she IS a DOG. Cheers.
    Last edited by Devil's Advocate; 01-17-2010 at 03:45 PM. Reason: explain to HIM, I meant. Darned fingers!

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    Billy has just turned 12yrs old. The punishment was a stern talking too and he had to stay in his room for awhile. I dont really know, as I was outside playing fetch with Mollie, while mum was sorting it out. I have to admit I gave Billy a fair swipe across the face when I saw my puppy being thrown around and the dropped on the ground.

    Thanks for the advice everyone! I will try what you guys have told me

    Billy has been mean to Mollie ever since that day, as if he wants to make it worse. He gets told off non-stop, but its hard to get mum to understand what he is doing when he walks up too and does a sudden movement to scare her. How is it fair that she should cop this treatment???

    I just hope, she will realise that Billy is just a cruel kid, and not all over boys are like that...

    @ DA;; Haha! I refer to Mollie as my 'baby', but believe me, she is not treated like one! I dont push her around in a parm with a bottle That was the first condition, my dad set for me when I wanted my own dog, to treat it like one I have seen the bad-circumstances of my friends dog who she treats like baby, that dog is ill-behaved and nippy. I dont think I'll be going down that road

    Do you guys think Mollie will always hate Billy? I wouldnt mind if she did, he deserves many years of hate from Mollie by the way he treats her. But mum does mind, and she wants Mollie to be happy with everyone in the family.
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    Ah, thanks Demi for clearing that up for me. And thanks for taking my comments so well. Appreciate it!

    I have one idea which is floating around in my head concerning your brother. You have another dog in your family, right? Who does that dog belong to? Can you answer that first please.

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    Boof is the family-dog. We trained him to be a watch/guard dog.
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    Does it matter if she hates him? My dog hated my brother and his wife cause they're rough bastards

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    Like I said, I dont mind if Mollie hates him for the rest of her life, mum just has been asking me if there is any way to patch 'things up' between Billy && Mollie. I dont think she honestly cares if Mollie barks at him for years either, she knows that he deserves anything he gets from her.
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    You got a dog - what did he get?

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