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    Question.......

    How do I tell my mate and her man NICELY that they are not acceptable candidates for one of our pups?

    Pete (her man) actually called to ask if it ok to take a pup TONIGHT!!! because "they dont have a mum anymore, so it doesnt matter!"

    They know my personal feelings about where they live etc and they already have a 2 year old male. Which is Tysons son from another mother (before I met brad). I dont AT ALL agree with how they treat their boy now let alone a new pup. Which IMO they are only getting so they dont have to exercise the boy they have!

    Brad said yes to them without my knowledge when the pups were first born. How do I say no now? Should I leave it to brad and keep my nose out of it??? And then when it all turns to hell...sit back and say I had nothing to do with it???

    They want a white pup but dont believe in treating skin conditions or applying sunscreen etc. And this pup is so much more prone to cancer and skin conditions because of her colour.

    How do I tell them its not ok?......or should I just butt out?

    RANT OVER......but advice needed badly! *sigh* I cant watch this pup be ruined!

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    Is it at all possible to say that you did not know that Brad had agreed and that they actually all had names on them?

    You can either be honest and most likely lose a friendship or go with above or say that you were keeping the white pup.

    I really don't know but hopefully someone else that has dealt with this type of situation can be a little more helpful. Either way Good Luck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JudgeTheDeedNotTheBreed View Post
    Question.......

    How do I tell my mate and her man NICELY that they are not acceptable candidates for one of our pups?

    Pete (her man) actually called to ask if it ok to take a pup TONIGHT!!! because "they dont have a mum anymore, so it doesnt matter!"

    They know my personal feelings about where they live etc and they already have a 2 year old male. Which is Tysons son from another mother (before I met brad). I dont AT ALL agree with how they treat their boy now let alone a new pup. Which IMO they are only getting so they dont have to exercise the boy they have!

    Brad said yes to them without my knowledge when the pups were first born. How do I say no now? Should I leave it to brad and keep my nose out of it??? And then when it all turns to hell...sit back and say I had nothing to do with it???

    They want a white pup but dont believe in treating skin conditions or applying sunscreen etc. And this pup is so much more prone to cancer and skin conditions because of her colour.

    How do I tell them its not ok?......or should I just butt out?

    RANT OVER......but advice needed badly! *sigh* I cant watch this pup be ruined!
    Judge, you have consistently commented on how these pups have have the right, responsible owners, yet you are now considering 'butting out"' of the decision re one of them. I don't understand? Have I missed something?

    I would tell it like it is. Tough titties if their feelings are hurt. If they are friends, they will respect your diecision...IF they are.

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    Have you told Brad that you don't want a pup to go to this home? What does he say? Also do these people know that you aren't happy with the way they treat their current dog, and is their dog properly socialised with other dogs?

    It's a difficult one, but you have to place the pup's interests above everything else. I think it's easy enough to say to them they can't have a white one, it has to go to someone prepared to apply sun block etc. Maybe try saying you feel the pups are too small to go to a home where there is a fully grown dog that may injure it if they start to play. There will be a way of letting them down gently, hopefully they will accept that, if not you will have to be up front. How will you feel if as you say things "all turns to hell", can you live with that - it's not a risk I'd be willing to take, but that's just me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JudgeTheDeedNotTheBreed View Post
    Question.......

    How do I tell my mate and her man NICELY that they are not acceptable candidates for one of our pups?

    Pete (her man) actually called to ask if it ok to take a pup TONIGHT!!! because "they dont have a mum anymore, so it doesnt matter!"

    They know my personal feelings about where they live etc and they already have a 2 year old male. Which is Tysons son from another mother (before I met brad). I dont AT ALL agree with how they treat their boy now let alone a new pup. Which IMO they are only getting so they dont have to exercise the boy they have!

    Brad said yes to them without my knowledge when the pups were first born. How do I say no now? Should I leave it to brad and keep my nose out of it??? And then when it all turns to hell...sit back and say I had nothing to do with it???

    They want a white pup but dont believe in treating skin conditions or applying sunscreen etc. And this pup is so much more prone to cancer and skin conditions because of her colour.

    How do I tell them its not ok?......or should I just butt out?

    RANT OVER......but advice needed badly! *sigh* I cant watch this pup be ruined!
    Personally I would tell them straight out that they aren't suitable as a home for the pup and that you will not allow them to have one. It is difficult as they have already been told yes, but ultimately the puppies are your responsibility. If something goes wrong it will come back on you. I am naturally a very stubborn person and my approach rarely works for others

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    Quote Originally Posted by Angela's Gone Batty View Post
    Personally I would tell them straight out that they aren't suitable as a home for the pup and that you will not allow them to have one. It is difficult as they have already been told yes, but ultimately the puppies are your responsibility. If something goes wrong it will come back on you. I am naturally a very stubborn person and my approach rarely works for others
    Works for me!

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    They are your pups and you have to grow the balls to say no. I did and it has saved the heartache that would have been ongoing wondering.

    Any posts made under the name of Di_dee1 one can be used by anyone as I do not give a rats.

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    Ok......

    No their dog isn't socialised with others except for Bailey although I have stopped this too as he is not desexed and tries to mount her (she doesnt appreciate it and gets aggressive) ....he originally came from me as I rehomed him with them when he was saved from his previous owner. I honestly though it was the right home but I was wrong.

    He isn't beaten etc however he is fed black and gold dog food, I have to give him water every other day as he is rarely given any (or if he is, not enough IMO) and I make a point of going to see them every other day to see how he is going. He owns 1 toy, a kong and also IMO this is not enough stimulation for him. He literally runs around in circled due to boredom and is forever in trouble for EATING EVERYTHING BECAUSE HE IS SO BORED!

    It makes me so angry that brad and my mates know my feelings about this (brad didnt before he offered them a pup) and that my mates have gone behind my back about it.

    Brad is pretty well stepping back to let me deal with it....which pisses me off because now I AM in the firing line when he should never have offered them one at the start.

    They have 5 children : 11, 8, 5, 3 and 2yo. Brooke is an at home mum but certainly isnt a dog person. Pete has had a lot of experience with Pits as he used to use them for pigging when he lived in Mount Isa.

    He continues to tell me this pup wont be like Tazer (their 2yo Staffy) because its a pit and a clean slate .

    Well thanks guys and I guess in the end.....the truth hurts.....but I will be free of guilt

    I know what I am going to do now....Cheers

    Oh and this is Tazer when I had him before he went to Pete and Brooke....



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    maybe Tazer needs to be rescued too.....poor bugga!!! It for sure does not sound like they should have ANOTHER dog!!!

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    He's a cutie pie

    Sorry about the jerks.

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