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    Yea I dont like whining. We dont get much of it here though....we just get a lot of 'tude

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    Yep same here. Unless there is lots of blood or broken bones or someone died, crying is completely unnecessary and utterly annoying. lol

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    I guess it somthing we learn as the kids get older. It's a bit scary been a new parent with bubs number 1.

    I was paranoid about cot death after reading to much about the topic.

    If i walked past my sons room while he slept i would always poke my head in and watch for his little belly to rise and fall with his breathing and walk away feeling a bit relieved. Crazy stuff hey ?


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    Babies communicate with their cry.
    A responsive parent knows the difference between I am uncomfortable and I am exhausted and whining until I nod off.
    Children arrive with different personalities and needs, not a blank slate, each one will be different. It is not level ground for discussion.
    Every choice will have a consequence. The final result is we hope a reasonably well adjusted adult with choices and a positive future. Even out view of what that is will differ!
    I am a great believer in parents instincts. They don't always get it right but they live with the consequences and will adjust and learn over time.
    My work involves me being involved with many parents, I have learned that most people want to do what is best for their children.(I don't always agree but I respect their choices) Children become part of the culture of their household and family, that will not necessarily translate well into the wider world.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sean View Post
    I guess it somthing we learn as the kids get older. It's a bit scary been a new parent with bubs number 1.

    I was paranoid about cot death after reading to much about the topic.

    If i walked past my sons room while he slept i would always poke my head in and watch for his little belly to rise and fall with his breathing and walk away feeling a bit relieved. Crazy stuff hey ?
    I did the same stuff, Sean lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by farrview View Post
    Babies communicate with their cry.
    A responsive parent knows the difference between I am uncomfortable and I am exhausted and whining until I nod off.
    Children arrive with different personalities and needs, not a blank slate, each one will be different. It is not level ground for discussion.
    Every choice will have a consequence. The final result is we hope a reasonably well adjusted adult with choices and a positive future. Even out view of what that is will differ!
    I am a great believer in parents instincts. They don't always get it right but they live with the consequences and will adjust and learn over time.
    My work involves me being involved with many parents, I have learned that most people want to do what is best for their children.(I don't always agree but I respect their choices) Children become part of the culture of their household and family, that will not necessarily translate well into the wider world.
    From a parent's point of view, and I don't know if you have children Farrview but, a responsive new parent will tend to a crying child regardless. The different cries take a little while to distinguish. I believe in mothers instinct, but it is a learned thing! Unless an individual has looked after children before their own, and know what to do, you might as well be blindfolded in a mine field. A lot of parenting comes with trial and error. Majority of parents want to be the best they can do, but we do make mistakes along the way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by farrview View Post
    Babies communicate with their cry.
    A responsive parent knows the difference between I am uncomfortable and I am exhausted and whining until I nod off.
    Children arrive with different personalities and needs, not a blank slate, each one will be different. It is not level ground for discussion.
    Every choice will have a consequence. The final result is we hope a reasonably well adjusted adult with choices and a positive future. Even out view of what that is will differ!
    I am a great believer in parents instincts. They don't always get it right but they live with the consequences and will adjust and learn over time.
    My work involves me being involved with many parents, I have learned that most people want to do what is best for their children.(I don't always agree but I respect their choices) Children become part of the culture of their household and family, that will not necessarily translate well into the wider world.

    Do you have children? I am assuming from your post that you dont, and these comments dont apply specifically to you but in general.

    I find it quite hard to swallow any "parenting" talk from people who have never had children. And look, I know plenty of people who look after kids, or work with kids, I know psychiatrists etc...but the fact is NONE of that translates to having your own children. Its not the same, its not even CLOSE to bein the same. And I can get irritated very quickly with non parents offerent me parenting advice. They dont know anything about parenting. They might know some theory, but until you have practical experience, IMO,you knw NOTHING LOL.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sean View Post
    I guess it somthing we learn as the kids get older. It's a bit scary been a new parent with bubs number 1.

    I was paranoid about cot death after reading to much about the topic.

    If i walked past my sons room while he slept i would always poke my head in and watch for his little belly to rise and fall with his breathing and walk away feeling a bit relieved. Crazy stuff hey ?
    Yea I didnt really do any of that. I was rough as with my kid....she can still be a wimp though LOL.

    I did occasionally used to go in and watch her sleeping, then I would "accidentally" wake her because she was so cute and I had to hold her for a few minutes

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    See, if it's learned - which I totally agree with - it's not an instinct. I was amazed at how clueless I was on what to do with my baby when I got home from the hospital. Really, not a single clue! And then you get every parent you meet give you an overload of contradictory advice which just makes matters worse. I did get some great advice from the parenting helpline though. It took me about 6 weeks to start feeling more confident. And after that it was kind of a breeze. Also because I stopped breastfeeding. I think that was the first thing I did which was regarded by lots as controversial (or plain wrong) and that was the start of me daring to think that everyone needed to butt out because only I knew what was best for this child.

    I also don't agree that every little thing you do or don't do is going to have some massive effect on a child's development. There are people who claim that nothing we do as parents matters all that much because their genes and their peer will have way more influence on the outcome. Kids are way more resilient than we give them credit for.

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