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    I find people who are into this 'everything on demand' with babies can be quite militant about this.

    I remember at daycare they sometimes would tell me that they patted my daughter for a full hour to try get her to sleep and I would just laugh at them. Of course she is not going to go to sleep when there's someone sitting right next to her fussing over her!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Beloz View Post
    I find people who are into this 'everything on demand' with babies can be quite militant about this.

    I remember at daycare they sometimes would tell me that they patted my daughter for a full hour to try get her to sleep and I would just laugh at them. Of course she is not going to go to sleep when there's someone sitting right next to her fussing over her!
    LMAO, they are clever little beings lol

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    I was the mother who's child at childcare everyone knew that weren't allowed to pat to sleep, bugger that, I had better things to do than pat my child while they dozed off! My friend and I very much disagree on our parenting techniques, to the point her baby has to be held all the time and I put her bub down if I'm supposed to be holding her, she screams and mum picks her up. They go to sleep school but still have no joy. I can tell her what the issue is but I doubt there would be a friendship left after.

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    Quote Originally Posted by alacrityvirtue View Post
    I was the mother who's child at childcare everyone knew that weren't allowed to pat to sleep, bugger that, I had better things to do than pat my child while they dozed off! My friend and I very much disagree on our parenting techniques, to the point her baby has to be held all the time and I put her bub down if I'm supposed to be holding her, she screams and mum picks her up. They go to sleep school but still have no joy. I can tell her what the issue is but I doubt there would be a friendship left after.
    That's why I am no longer friends with the above example that I gave. I basically told her, that her kid was a brat who needed discipline and she didn't get it. And that friend also always held her babies 24/7...I am in no means a perfect mother, I am winging it lol, but if we can't function because we are so worn out, how can we be there for our kids...unfortunately i have learnt that, parenting techniques really influence our friendships. I am stricter than some on my children, but I get complimented on my girls when we are out...except for at the grocery store. My kids can be terrors there.

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    I don't have children nor do I want any but when I look after young babies when they cry I pick them up.
    They always seem to cry for a reason, well the babies I have looked after do anyways, plus their cry actually hurts my ears

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    Without reading any other posts, I am commenting on the first, I let my kid cry.

    I cant stand all the molly coddling that goes on these days. It irritates the shit out of me to be honest.

    I also had a friend who cradled her son to sleep or took him to bed with her, the minute he made a noise that sounded remotely like a whinge she was there picking him up. He didnt sleep though the night til he was about 3. He whines if you arent looking at him all the time. Frustrating.

    I offered to baby sit one night and he went to bed fine at 7, but then woke up at midnight and made me rock him. Every time I went to put him back in th ebed, once he was asleep, he would wake and cry. This went on til 3 am, by that stage I was f'n ropeable and I rang her. I am pretty sure I said something like "come and pick up your f'n kid before I beat him" and what was annoying, she had been home and in bed asleep since 9pm so had ad 6 hours sleep already and I had none. I never sat him again after that.

    I used to let my kid cry depending on the type of cry. " I wanna get up now" - you can wait ten minute til I am ready. "I dont wanna go to bed yet" - tough shit etc etc. But when you hear that "I am really in pain cry" its different.

    I am not overly motherly though LOL. We have a lot of love and affection in our home, but if my kid falls over, I often laugh, its funny. Or when shes packing a shit about something, I wind her up LOL. Before everyone thinks I am especially cruel, she also does it to me and she is almost 13 so can handle it a bit LOL

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    Quote Originally Posted by xx_sheena_xx View Post
    I don't have children nor do I want any but when I look after young babies when they cry I pick them up.
    They always seem to cry for a reason, well the babies I have looked after do anyways, plus their cry actually hurts my ears
    Yeah, but there's reasons and reasons, sheena. If they're hungry you feed them, if their nappy is dirty, you change them, if they're sick you comfort them and take them to the doctor and of course you make time to just cuddle them and show them affection. But after that you've reached the limits of what you can do for them really.

    And also, if it's your own baby, you know the difference between crying and "crying". If there is really something wrong with them, you'll know and no one would be able to stop you from picking them up and comforting them then. But the normal, every day "look at me, I'm a cute baby, so respect my authoritay" crying, you get used to that eventually.

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    Babies must be odd around me, they only seem to cry when they actually need something like food, nappy change, ect

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lala View Post
    Without reading any other posts, I am commenting on the first, I let my kid cry.

    I cant stand all the molly coddling that goes on these days. It irritates the shit out of me to be honest.

    I also had a friend who cradled her son to sleep or took him to bed with her, the minute he made a noise that sounded remotely like a whinge she was there picking him up. He didnt sleep though the night til he was about 3. He whines if you arent looking at him all the time. Frustrating.

    I offered to baby sit one night and he went to bed fine at 7, but then woke up at midnight and made me rock him. Every time I went to put him back in th ebed, once he was asleep, he would wake and cry. This went on til 3 am, by that stage I was f'n ropeable and I rang her. I am pretty sure I said something like "come and pick up your f'n kid before I beat him" and what was annoying, she had been home and in bed asleep since 9pm so had ad 6 hours sleep already and I had none. I never sat him again after that.

    I used to let my kid cry depending on the type of cry. " I wanna get up now" - you can wait ten minute til I am ready. "I dont wanna go to bed yet" - tough shit etc etc. But when you hear that "I am really in pain cry" its different.

    I am not overly motherly though LOL. We have a lot of love and affection in our home, but if my kid falls over, I often laugh, its funny. Or when shes packing a shit about something, I wind her up LOL. Before everyone thinks I am especially cruel, she also does it to me and she is almost 13 so can handle it a bit LOL
    I learnt to not to run to them as they got older when they fell over, they would be fine if I didn't react, unless they were actually hurt of course...my kids used to fall over, and then they'd bounce back up and say, "no blood mummy" and off they'd go again lol. As they get older, they try new tactics. My five year old says " an iceblock will make me better", lol, or whatever I have in the house at the time that she wants lol.

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    When my first daughter was born and she would cry, I would think, what the hell do you want??? Or whats wrong???? To me, mothers instinct is a learned thing. You learn from experience and get to know different cries. My girls have different cries now even as young children. I can't stand whinging or whining lol, it does my head in.

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