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    Default Lonely Hearts Club

    A girl I work with joined Oasis and keeps raving about all the nice guys and "hotties" she's met on there.
    I am really sceptical of online dating because it just seems desperate.
    Anyway last night I decided to join up to Oasis and I specified in my profile that I am only looking for friendship because casual sex is not something I am interested in and I have only just come out of a long term relationship and don't want another one.
    I figured it can't hurt to try and broaden my social circle as my ex and I shared a lot of the same friends and I don't like being around them now because it hurts too much.

    Does anyone have any stories about their online dating experiences?

    Prehaps we should start our own DF "lonely hearts club" as my Mum calls it
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    Don't know about Oasis but I tried RSVP a couple of years after coming out of a longterm relationship - I also thought the whole internet dating thing was a bit desperate, but hey! I'm 50 now and the other options are much more desperate...... And I actually enjoyed it mostly, met about 20 blokes over a year or so, lots of coffees and no further contact, a few that made it to restaurant meeting stage. Enjoyed getting out and going to places I hadn't been before and that I'd never go to on my own, but nothing that went beyond that first meeting (I became the master at diplomatic texts or phone calls saying "lovely to meet you, but...." Then a few months ago I started email "chatting" to a fellow who absolutely drove me mad (and no doubt vice versa), we kept misinterpreting what each other wrote and in the end I agreed to an initial meeting just so I could go "OK, lovely to meet you, but....." and move on.

    Well, we met 3 months ago and I went "whoaaah, ok." Now we've just spent a lovely Christmas together (the 2 years previous I have more or less hidden from Christmas) and are looking forward to getting to know each other more in 2012. Funnily enough in my online profile I said that I was looking to improve my social life, but I don't think I quite envisaged that as meaning sitting through a 3 hour primary school Christmas concert the other week (he has 3 young daughters, I just have the 2 dogs). Mind you, he did pass the first big test by suggesting our 2nd meeting be at the beach to meet the dogs, at the end of which he praised their good manners and said they were a credit to me. Smart fellow obviously, I must remember to do the same about his kids.

    Good luck with it, be careful of course, don't take anything too seriously and you might just have some fun. I didn't have any bad experiences but there are a lot of odd ones out there. Love to hear how you go.

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    Hey Clarebear,
    I have done the whole net dating thing too, with two small children it was hard to go out on dates. I had been on rsvp, plenty of fish, person.com , and just got over it. There are a lot of pigs in the real world who are not into relationships and just want one thing. To me online dating is like weeding. You have to weed out the jerks to find a nice guy. I have been with my boyfriend for 18 months now, and we actually met on OasisActive. It is a much better site than a lot of them and it is free. I always thought to myself, if I have to pay to find love..forget it lol! You have to be wary of course, but give it a go, you have nothing to lose, and you might just make some new friends or meet one special one :-)

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    OasisActive is the one I am using
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    Let us know how you go!

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    Yeh i was pretty much on the same ones Oskars mum mentioned, met one nice woman out of it but hasnt really gone anywhere. Found alot of people are looking for the "perfect" partner and looking at some of thier requirements its no wonder theyre single, you'd think they were buying a car..lol.

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    Every one I've spoken to so far deletes me as soon as I say I am not looking to hook up.
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    R.I.P Dali: 10th May 1998 – 20th December 2011

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    I browsed RSVP for a while a few years back. And I was always shocked by how many older men were looking for a woman 20 years younger than them.

    And my first response on my profile was from a couple!!!

    I ended up only meeting up with one guy, who confessed over a coffee that he was diagnosed with paranoid schizofrena and some other messed up brain stuff. I ran.

    And then I decided that I cannot do internet dating because I have a pretty severe spinal illness. Maybe one day I will meet someone who can see past that when he gets to know me, but that won't happen via chatting on the internet.

    Wow, I don't know where that all came from.

    I know people who've married someone they met on a dating site. And I've known some who just had fun going on dates.

    Good luck!

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    I deactiviated my account and my Facebook. Turns out I am not quite ready to intergrate back into society yet.
    Owning a dog should be a partnership. Much like a good marriage it should be based on love, trust and devotion until death do you part.
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    looks like there is another to add the the club..............4 years and it ended about an hour ago...... i guess i can spend the money i had been putting aside for an engagment ring on the jeep now.......... :S
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