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    I got a call yesterday, My mum has been admitted to hospital and is not in a good way. She can't talk properly, her writting skills are crude and she is struggling to communicate. They aren't sure what is wrong but I have been told they don't think it is a stroke but she is in for an MRI today. From what I have been told it is probably Neurological.

    I am really worried. My step day work 60+ Hours a week and while mum is hospital he has to look after my 2 little sisters (6 and 7) both have disabilities.
    Both my Mum and step dad are proud people and are trying to shrug the whole thing off. I have offerred to help but I live 4 hours away and can't just pop in to force them to let me help.

    I am keeping the 'stiff upper lip' at home so not to worry my OH or my 3yr old son but I am really worried for everybody involved. I wish I could do SOMETHING.

    Thanks for listening. I know there is nothing can be done at this stage but I really need to tell someone without stressing my OH.

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    What a worriesome time for you. the distance away makes it all the harder. I hope your mum is ok.

    Perhaps you could help from a distance by ringing local community support groups or other family who might be closer, who coudl assist with the two young ones and all the other things that are part of home life such as washing and cooking.
    A pessimist sees the glass as half empty;
    An optimist sees the glass as half full;
    A realist just finishes the damn thing and refills it.

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    Thanks Anne I might have to try that My Stepdad Is not the greatest Multi tasker in the world I suspect he might need the help.

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    ((((HUGS)))) I don't know what to say but I couldn't read and not respond.
    I hope she makes a full recovery.

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    Im sorry to hear this.

    I cant help I'm sorry but I'll keep your mum in my thoughts

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    Thanks so much everyone I really appreciate the support I am thinking positive and I am sure she'll be fine

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    How horrible for you and your family, DragOnCharm.

    I hope you can find a way to be there for a few days at least so you can see for yourself what is happening and what needs doing. Maybe some casseroles or something to make things easy for those who have to fend for themselves for a while.

    Sometimes singing works when talking or writing doesnt - it uses a different bit of the brain. Same with pictures or cartoons or sign language. That might be a way to communicate. Eg draw a glass of water, point to it, get a glass of water, or mime having a drink etc. Same with basic needs like the dunny, food, phone etc.

    Brains are amazing in their ability to adapt to work around things like these - so hopefully your Mum will find her way. But I'd find it impossible to stay home and wait. Hugs to you. Hope it works out for the best.

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    Thanks again all. I have spoken with my Step-Dad and he has agreed to organize some help with my sisters and home life. Has relieve me a fair bit
    No news on my Mum herself the MRI was rescheduled not sure why, but now she might not have it until NEXT Thursday. No change at this stage but she is sending short emails from her laptop a few times a day. They are very basic and no more than two lines at a time. Mother was a stickler for correct spelling and grammar, so it is hard reading her emails .

    Having said all that, she is not getting any worse. Fingers crossed she gets better soon.

    I am making plans so that if she is not better (or Lord Forbid gets worse) by Next Thursday, I am going straight up. My OH will care for the animals and work while I take my son up and help. I have to organize the care of all the animals including 3 horse, 2 cats and our dog Gypsy. Otherwise I would head up sooner

    Thanks again every one.

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    Hi DragOnCharm

    That's a lot to organise to get a break. Are your neighbours or local pony club people etc able to help?

    When I used to have a horse agisted there were a whole bunch of us that would help each other out, though it was frequently me that did the fill in job of making sure all the critters at home were looked after when my friends were away competing.
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    My OH is going to do most of it but as you said I have to find people to help him if he has problems or needs to work or even just a Day of from it all. I am reluctanly roping in the In Laws to, they are NOT animal people. But they will feed at my furr babies.
    I also am asking a friend who lives down the road to help with the horses too.
    It'll come together Just have to work days and work and finaces ect then I can go.

    LOL only trouble with running a household is when I leave I have organise it to work without me

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