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    I think one of the hardest things in the world is to be just friends with someone you really have feelings for. In those situations I have become good friends with a couple of exes but only after the relationship feelings had gone which can take time and separation.

    I have real good friend who in her early thirties finally was able to be the lesbian she has always been and she was immediately thrown out of her church. Very strange really. I dont know why everyone gets so worked up about the whole thing, it is just one of the normal variations of human sexuality.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kalacreek View Post
    I think one of the hardest things in the world is to be just friends with someone you really have feelings for. In those situations I have become good friends with a couple of exes but only after the relationship feelings had gone which can take time and separation.

    I have real good friend who in her early thirties finally was able to be the lesbian she has always been and she was immediately thrown out of her church. Very strange really. I dont know why everyone gets so worked up about the whole thing, it is just one of the normal variations of human sexuality.
    It is really sad especially when you lose friends or family over it... It's not like we go around saying "Are YOU straight?" in the manner we are asked if we're lesbian!

    I'm very fortunate to have people in my life who support me...wish I could say the same for my overzealous Christian extended family.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Sierra View Post
    That's the thing, BoarderPoo! We've known about each other's feelings for almost 1.5 years now and nothing has changed because I'm afraid to lose the friendship we have. I dated my best friend when I was 16 and we haven't been the same since even though I talk to her regularly.
    Sometimes you have to take the plunge and risk losing the friendship, it's happened to me before but it got me where I am today.

    I've known my bf for 3 years, we met online, he lived in Sydney and I lived in Adelaide. We both knew about our feelings but didn't think a long distance relationship would work, a year and a half after we first started talking I realised that I didn't want to be just friends anymore. I dumped the guy who I was with at the time, starting dating my bf then 3 months later booked a place ticket to Sydney, stayed here for a month then moved in with him (in Sydney) a month after that. I haven't looked back since and i've never been happier.

    Of course i'm sure my case is a rarity but if I didn't take the chance i'd still be living in Adelaide with my horrible family being dreadfully unhappy :P

    If she doesn't want a relationship though, you can't force her. And as much as not getting into an official relationship might preserve the friendship for the time being, eventually if your feelings stay the same, you probably won't be able to see her as "just a friend" anymore.

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    Family is a weird thing, as they say you can pick your friends but not your family.
    I have a mixed race son & my grandmother had the hide to say I was lucky he came out so white.
    She may not think so now as he has darken with age, lol.........

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    I cannot believe your grandmother said that, Crazy.

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    Oh she sure did but she dose not know him now as I don't want him picking up on their racism. Poeple really astound me at times & racism of any sort really gets my back up.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sierra View Post
    That's the thing, BoarderPoo! We've known about each other's feelings for almost 1.5 years now and nothing has changed because I'm afraid to lose the friendship we have. I dated my best friend when I was 16 and we haven't been the same since even though I talk to her regularly.

    It is good advice though We are just together like a couple when she is here or I am there, but while she's in the States we're just friends. I prefer it like this because it means we can't lose the friendship by dating. Emotional stuff ruins the best friendships!
    Im sure it will all end well, enjoy her company when you get to see her. And im having a brain fart at the moment but you know that saying something something makes the heart grow fonder. Serious mind blank right now. Oh well you get my point.

    Maybe one day it will continue to be something more. You never know.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sierra View Post
    It is really sad especially when you lose friends or family over it... It's not like we go around saying "Are YOU straight?" in the manner we are asked if we're lesbian!

    I'm very fortunate to have people in my life who support me...wish I could say the same for my overzealous Christian extended family.

    My dad came out as *** a couple of years ago. So in a way I know exactly what its like. I had people pointing at me and whispering whenever I walked down the main street.

    Its the people that hate ***s so much that are the ones that are affraid of there own sexuality.

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    Anthony Keidis(sp?)??
    No way!? Looks nothing like him!
    I assume you've read his book? Its messed ey!

    Sorry, offtopic
    Education not Legislation

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    Hubby just read his book, loved it (totally off topic too).

    Sorry you're missing your friend. It's always hard to adjust to being "alone" again. I can understand that a long-distance thing would be too difficult.

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