I think one of the hardest things in the world is to be just friends with someone you really have feelings for. In those situations I have become good friends with a couple of exes but only after the relationship feelings had gone which can take time and separation.
I have real good friend who in her early thirties finally was able to be the lesbian she has always been and she was immediately thrown out of her church. Very strange really. I dont know why everyone gets so worked up about the whole thing, it is just one of the normal variations of human sexuality.