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    Okay, I am just blowing off steam here (mods delete if you wish),
    so, I am getting married this friday and turn 50 this saturday.
    My 32 year old son just told me "that he bought tickets to go to a gig saturday night and won't be able to help celebrate my birthday and by the way is broke as well, we might catch up for dinner next week"!
    What I want to know is am I over reacting?
    This is the son I lost everything for just to pay private solicitors and family law court to get his son back, this son is the reason why I am renting and don't own a house anymore or have a high paid job in Queensland any more!
    Mmmmmmmmmmm, I wonder what would happen if I missed his birthday?

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    I wish I had something helpful to say regarding your son.



    Congratulations on getting married and Happy Birthday for Saturday thought, what an exciting weekend!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Angela's Gone Batty View Post
    I wish I had something helpful to say regarding your son.



    Congratulations on getting married and Happy Birthday for Saturday thought, what an exciting weekend!
    Thanks Angela , just blowing off some steam!
    Sometimes I don't know what it get's into that boy!

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    HUGE hugs! Sounds like he takes you for granted! Perhaps you need to be frank with him and tell him exactly how his actions make you feel. After all, he is no child, he is a grown man!!!

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    Oh boy...what do you say to that?!?

    I know if it was me I would be extremely hurt...angry...disappointed etc etc. But what can you do...they are your kids...sigh

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cleasanta View Post
    Oh boy...what do you say to that?!?

    I know if it was me I would be extremely hurt...angry...disappointed etc etc. But what can you do...they are your kids...sigh
    hurt...angry...and disappointed! What is the old thing nurture vs nature?
    Because I didn't bring him up maybe nuture takes over, over nature, but then again he never forgets or misses his adopted fathers birthday even though he has been a terrible a***hole!

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    aww BOH, so sorry to hear about your issues with your son

    OMG, you have enough on your plate with out your son adding extra dilemma.


    BIG congtraz on your up and coming wedding, wishing you many years of joyful wedded bliss.



    Happy Birthday for Saturday


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    Married? wow, congrats!
    Are you being oversensitive? No way.
    I have a prick 25yo son like that too who would give no thought whatsover, just like yours. I have done everything for him too, financial, nursing him through back operations and he will not come on a family holiday that I want to do as he feels he will be bored.

    I am afraid now that the only way I can stay sane with him is just to realise he is an asshole at times and to try and enjoy things without him and accept he does this. I have not had a Christmas with him in years as he prefers to just hole up in his flat and play the poor me thing.

    Then at other times he is so loving and caring...go figure.

    Have you tried to explain to him how you feel?

    Any posts made under the name of Di_dee1 one can be used by anyone as I do not give a rats.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Di_dee1 View Post
    Married? wow, congrats!
    Are you being oversensitive? No way.
    I have a prick 25yo son like that too who would give no thought whatsover, just like yours. I have done everything for him too, financial, nursing him through back operations and he will not come on a family holiday that I want to do as he feels he will be bored.

    I am afraid now that the only way I can stay sane with him is just to realise he is an asshole at times and to try and enjoy things without him and accept he does this. I have not had a Christmas with him in years as he prefers to just hole up in his flat and play the poor me thing.

    Then at other times he is so loving and caring...go figure.

    Have you tried to explain to him how you feel?
    Yes I have, a couple of years ago the whole thing caused me to have a near nervous breakdown. Was on suicide watch for a week! At least OH is a sensitive person and I have Ralph and Damien (the cat).
    These boys are strange, yes mine can be loving and caring at times and other times is so self centred and he plays the poor me thing too!

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    Sorry to hear all the trouble your son has put you thru.

    I'm sorry for myself because obviously they don't grow out of it.

    The two skids rarely remember my birthday and only when OH instigates it which I've now told him not to.

    But I take solace in the fact that they don't remember anyones but their own.

    Should you be angry - damn right you should. 50 is a benchmark birthday to be celebrated with family and friends regardless if that is your wish.

    Congratulations to you.

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