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    I was writting this wholeeeee big comment, but it was getting too philosophical and delving way too deep so according to the KISS principle (keep it simple stu**d) by which I'm trying to live my life (its hard for someone as analytical as myself ), I dont think youve done anything wrong here

    I hope all goes well with this guy and your friend can get over this initial reaction.

    PS. Aren't ALL relationship issues VERY childish?

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    Thanks for your advice everyone.
    Does it change it that SHE broke up with HIM?
    Also, she was incredibly incredibly jealous. Like, crazy jealous. She deleted all the female names out of his phone book.
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    Quote Originally Posted by aussiemyf7 View Post
    Thanks for your advice everyone.
    Does it change it that SHE broke up with HIM?
    Also, she was incredibly incredibly jealous. Like, crazy jealous. She deleted all the female names out of his phone book.
    Personally I don't think you have done anything wrong at all. Her jealousy is her problem. True friends are happy for one another when something good happens. If she was already breaking plans with you because she wanted to spend time with a guy then that is not your issue.

    Jealousy is a horrid emotion. It causes people to do stupid, inconsiderate and crazy things. I've had friends who have done this to their partners. One of the men Hubby works with isn't allowed to talk to any of the partners of any of the other boys when his wife is there. He has to make sure that he tells her she is gorgeous and he loves her first thing in the morning and last thing at night and he has a quota of loving text messages he has to fill or she literally locks him out of the house. IMO She needs some serious therapy and is way too unstable. How she copes in real life is a mystery to me.

    As far as your situation goes, You are NOT doing anything wrong. She dumped him, that means he's free for the taking She decided she didn't want him and dumped him therefore she has given up all 'rights' to him. Dog it sounds like I'm treating him like an object lol. If she cannot get over herself and her elevated idea of her position that is not your problem.

    Just my opinion.

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    Myf, I wouldn't have a clue in hell if what you have done is the 'right' thing or the 'wrong' thing.

    I will say...

    1) Why did you feel the need to keep it quiet? That speaks volumes to me.
    2) If she is your friend, why are you finding reasons to denegrate her?

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    prehaps switch the situation around and honestly think how you would feel, if it genuinely wouldn't bother you then continue on your relationship and good luck to you both.

    But in reading through this thread you don't seem overly fond of this gf to begin with. I think it says alot about a person who dates friends of ex's because really there are so many more people that they could of moved onto, I hope him entering a relationship with you isn't a 'pay back' type thing for her dumping him. iykwim (excuse bluntness its txt, Im not trying to be mean at all).

    BUT again..you hear stories of people who have met exactly how you have met him and ended up married with kids till the day they die, so you never know. Sometimes things are just meant to be. Only you can really decide if the whole situation is genuine and good for you.

    Good luck whichever way it goes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Anne View Post
    Nup, don't agree with what others are saying. She was only with the guy for 6 months.

    If she had been in a long term serious relationship with him, or if they had any kind of relationship regardless of time, and he dumped her by screwing around or bashing her or whatever, then I would say he would be a no-go.

    Enjoy your time with him. If she is that selfish that she can't acknowledge that you both liked him and now you're trying him on after he didn't fit her, then she needs to pull her head in.
    Well said!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Anne View Post
    Nup, don't agree with what others are saying. She was only with the guy for 6 months.

    If she had been in a long term serious relationship with him, or if they had any kind of relationship regardless of time, and he dumped her by screwing around or bashing her or whatever, then I would say he would be a no-go.

    Enjoy your time with him. If she is that selfish that she can't acknowledge that you both liked him and now you're trying him on after he didn't fit her, then she needs to pull her head in.
    LMAO!!! You have a...um...way with words, Anne.

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    I too say enjoy. It was only a short term relationship.

    A woman had a 6 month relationship with a man, (I did not know her then) We became good mates afterwards.
    I came along later and married him, had 2 kids and divorced him 8 years later.
    A year or so later they ran into each other, a relationship started again.
    He came to tell me he was getting married again. I said "oh hell, not Natalie"
    He had this funny look on his face and said nope....B

    I did not know they were seeing each other. she and I had lost touch. I was stunned.
    I was SO happy as I could not think of a better stepmother for my kids on their visits there.
    She was waiting in Melb to hear from him what my reaction was, I rang her myself and yelled YESSSSSSSSS.
    I used to ring him about something or other then talk to her for half an hour.
    Even though he died in 97 we are still mates to this day and she has 2 kids by him as well.

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    You have to choose between your GF and your new BF.

    It may be that she's possessive of you not him, now, so she's trying to keep you for herself not him but she's going about it in a very silly way if you ask me. Like scolding a dog when it finally comes back to you.

    It's not appropriate for her to act jealous of him if he goes out with someone new. It's not very friendly for her to act jealous of you. But I don't know why she broke up with him. I like what Anne said about that.

    I hope you work it all out for the best.

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    This is a touchy subject and I don't know what I would do in this situation. Technically you're not doing anything wrong - they've been broken up for half a year!

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