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    My peeves....

    - People who discipline their children i.e. time out etc and then when the kid starts crying they apologise - kind of defeats the purpose!

    - People who judge me for owning "tough" dogs when they don't even know me.

    - People who judge my dogs because of the way they look.

    - People who judge my decisions/relationship/living circumstances etc etc because of my age.

    - Hoons in residential areas - go find a f-ing dirt road in the middle of nowhere! If you wanna kill yourself all well and good but don't take me and my family with you because of your stupidity!

    - Drunk drivers (not even going to comment)

    (Had a drunk guy crash into my front fence bout 2 months ago at 3am - He done a runner so only got as fine and has to deal with my insurance company) - The kids were staying with us too so was really scary!

    - People who are arrogant and will not even listen to your opinion in the midst of a discussion! - you don't have to agree with me but at least let me have my say!

    - People who cant even look after the dog they own now and think buying a new puppy will solve the other dogs issues! ARGH!

    So many!

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    - People who refuse to discipline their children because they're 'expressing themselves,' and proceed to go ballistic if you tell the brat to stop breaking your karaoke set.

    -All this 'say no in a positive way' bs. At primary school and kinder, a child is no longer permitted to be told no. Teachers have to say 'we do not hit our friends' instead of 'No, it's wrong to hit Johnny.'

    -How racism is looked for in everything. (Jackson Jive, KFC add)

    I could go on and on about all that kinda stuff but lets just say political correctness in general pisses me off.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Charlie & Bella's mum View Post
    I don't know what it is. *sigh* I feel so much older than my 23 years because I can't stand the way alot of kids act these days (no offence DGP! Not aimed at you!). When I was a kid my brother and I had good manners drilled into us - you called people Mr & Mrs, you always said please and thank you and excuse me. You answered the phone politely. You spoke to adults with respect and didn't swear in front of them (I still rarely swear in front of my parents! In fact, no one in my whole family will swear, smoke, or say anything remotely inappropriate in front of my 97yo great grandma).

    Oh I can totally relate to this post. I was brought up the same way.


    My kids are 2 & 4 and I expect them to use their manners. Sometimes I'll get the 'I want .....' from my DD but I just have to give her a look or say 'excuse me?' and she'll quickly remember to ask politely.

    Some of the young people my husband has to deal with in his line of work just have no respect for their elders (or the law for that matter).

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    I thought it was your OH that was snoring and his father (your FIL not his?) that was stubborn/snored? His MIL would be your mother yes? If it is his father that is dead - you could say the snoring contributed and you might be right.

    Never mind FIL/MIL relativities, what I was looking for was ways that the snoring sound would get played plenty of times in the snorer's waking presence, and it's a good "alert" noise because it's so annoying. Ultimately - you could (get one of the kids to) set the ring tone for all calls on *his* phone to that noise. If it will let you choose to set the ring tone to any mp3/sound recording. And if he complains - you can say now he knows how the rest of the family feel.

    back on the kiddy problem...

    I can forgive parents who try to get their kids to do the right thing. It's the ones who don't notice, don't care, laugh, or yell at you for dealing with the problem that they were ignoring, that I don't like.

    I'd like all parents to teach their kids not to run up to strange dogs.

    I'd also lilke all parents to teach their kids to stand their ground in the presence of strange dogs and not run away shrieking. Frosty's favourite game is chasey and she thinks that is an invitation. She still won't hurt them but other dogs might.

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    All this 'say no in a positive way' bs. At primary school and kinder, a child is no longer permitted to be told no. Teachers have to say 'we do not hit our friends' instead of 'No, it's wrong to hit Johnny.'
    I can give you 3 really good books to read as to why this is wayy better then the ways we use to parent our kids and their self esteem issues (one being parenting for a peaceful world a real eye opener) not this example that you've given per-say but the positive parenting you're talking about

    Up until reading these books i would have agreed with you 100% no doubt about it! and still there are times we're it is completely useless...

    What intrigues me, and i do not mean to offend, but statistically speaking positive parenting came in around the same time as ADD/ADHD cases rose dramatically, in fact i think it's 1/8 boys aged 8 - 16 that have been diagnosed (and possibly medicated) for these behavioral issues.

    In no way am I saying that the deficits aren't viable, or anything of the sort , but i do think there is a lot of misdiagnoses happening since the introduction to a different style of parenting..

    I for one, refuse to use power and guilt to parent as that;s what i grew up with and it's horrible.. I don't think any child should be scared of any adult, thats not teaching respect its teaching fear.. Two very different things but commonly mistaken IMO...

    Unfortunately respect is something that you earn you can teach it all you like but unless you are giving as much respect as you are demanding back it's not going to happen..

    Basic manners on the other hand a complete different kettle of fish and I would be mortified if my child ran through a door without holding it open for others, didn't say please/thank you to outsiders (and my own household but the occasional one slips) and spoke rudely to anyone, though i must admit it DOES happen and we deal with it accordingly..



    Speaking of parenting.. what pee's me off THE MOST (school related) is parents who think their kids are perfect,, O.M.G!! I had to deal with this one parent last year who honestly thought it was everyone elses problem her son had anger issues, lashed out etc.. She would not seek help and refused to believe there was a problem at all. The boy in question had actually 2 hands out pushed one of the staff members who was pregnant (showing and the kids knew it) in the stomach deliberately... Yet when the mother was called in "oh boys will be boys" NO THEY WONT!! she refused to discipline and told the school it was their fault..

    The same kid had thrown bricks to kids head (play bricks) when he didn't get his own way, punched kids in the face and so forth.. It worried me about where this anger came from, i mean it was clear she wasn't the best parent in the world but sheesh that was a lot of pent up aggression.. Thankfully i don't have to deal with her this year

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    back on the kiddy problem...

    I can forgive parents who try to get their kids to do the right thing. It's the ones who don't notice, don't care, laugh, or yell at you for dealing with the problem that they were ignoring, that I don't like.

    I'd like all parents to teach their kids not to run up to strange dogs.

    I'd also lilke all parents to teach their kids to stand their ground in the presence of strange dogs and not run away shrieking. Frosty's favourite game is chasey and she thinks that is an invitation. She still won't hurt them but other dogs might.
    oh i love you Hyc... it sh**** me to tears when kids/adults/anyone look at a dog and start acting as if its a bear, giant uncontrollable monster and run, yell, or do stupid backing away things..

    I get you're scared, i get you don't like dogs, but MY GOD what ever happened to animals smelling fear? If you're that terrified surely you should remember that.. Chloe thinks its great and thinks it means she MUST show them that she's not scary and try and licks them.. YAY..

    All of this happens at our dog park, yes one specifically designed for dogs, SO WHY THE HELL ARE YOU THERE !! argh... *lowers blood pressure*

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jodz View Post
    I can give you 3 really good books to read as to why this is wayy better then the ways we use to parent our kids and their self esteem issues (one being parenting for a peaceful world a real eye opener) not this example that you've given per-say but the positive parenting you're talking about

    Up until reading these books i would have agreed with you 100% no doubt about it! and still there are times we're it is completely useless...

    What intrigues me, and i do not mean to offend, but statistically speaking positive parenting came in around the same time as ADD/ADHD cases rose dramatically, in fact i think it's 1/8 boys aged 8 - 16 that have been diagnosed (and possibly medicated) for these behavioral issues.

    In no way am I saying that the deficits aren't viable, or anything of the sort , but i do think there is a lot of misdiagnoses happening since the introduction to a different style of parenting..

    I for one, refuse to use power and guilt to parent as that;s what i grew up with and it's horrible.. I don't think any child should be scared of any adult, thats not teaching respect its teaching fear.. Two very different things but commonly mistaken IMO...

    Unfortunately respect is something that you earn you can teach it all you like but unless you are giving as much respect as you are demanding back it's not going to happen..

    Basic manners on the other hand a complete different kettle of fish and I would be mortified if my child ran through a door without holding it open for others, didn't say please/thank you to outsiders (and my own household but the occasional one slips) and spoke rudely to anyone, though i must admit it DOES happen and we deal with it accordingly..



    Speaking of parenting.. what pee's me off THE MOST (school related) is parents who think their kids are perfect,, O.M.G!! I had to deal with this one parent last year who honestly thought it was everyone elses problem her son had anger issues, lashed out etc.. She would not seek help and refused to believe there was a problem at all. The boy in question had actually 2 hands out pushed one of the staff members who was pregnant (showing and the kids knew it) in the stomach deliberately... Yet when the mother was called in "oh boys will be boys" NO THEY WONT!! she refused to discipline and told the school it was their fault..

    The same kid had thrown bricks to kids head (play bricks) when he didn't get his own way, punched kids in the face and so forth.. It worried me about where this anger came from, i mean it was clear she wasn't the best parent in the world but sheesh that was a lot of pent up aggression.. Thankfully i don't have to deal with her this year
    My mum works at a school, and seriously, all these little kids are brats. I really don't agree with this method and should be taught right from wrong. If they do the wrong thing, IMO they need to be told. Not suggested that 'oh, we don't do this' but told. I have a really big family (we're Catholic lol) and I always babysit my cousins. The ones who are told this is wrong are so much better behaved than the other ones. The other ones know they rule the roost and if I tell them off they can cry to mum that their feelings were hurt. There are situations where you need to shock the child into stopping what they're doing. Ex: Once a kid who'd never been properly disciplined went to hit another little boy with a baseball bat because he 'took his turn' or something like that. My mum screamed out no and the kid dropped the bat in surprise. Had she not done that, the kid would have a pretty damaged leg. Then this kid's mum told my mum that she should have positively reinforced his behaviour.

    This isn't to say all parents who use these methods do it 'wrong,' I just believe that so much PC bs has gone into our school that kids can get away with murder.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hyacinth View Post
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    I thought it was your OH that was snoring and his father (your FIL not his?) that was stubborn/snored? His MIL would be your mother yes? If it is his father that is dead - you could say the snoring contributed and you might be right.

    Never mind FIL/MIL relativities, what I was looking for was ways that the snoring sound would get played plenty of times in the snorer's waking presence, and it's a good "alert" noise because it's so annoying. Ultimately - you could (get one of the kids to) set the ring tone for all calls on *his* phone to that noise. If it will let you choose to set the ring tone to any mp3/sound recording. And if he complains - you can say now he knows how the rest of the family feel.

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    Sorry Hy, I think I caused confusion there.

    His father, my FIL, is dead. He was very bad with his snoring/striking out, jumping etc when sleeping. He died of a disease that apparently is quite hereditary, and most of my husband's family (all the males) have died of this, which is why the sleeping patterns of my OH is so scary. That's what I meant.

    I did discuss this at length with him again last night, Hy. TBH using the opinions and comments of others on here was rather helpful in getting him to listen a bit more instead of doing the usual ostrich trick! lol.

    I am thinking I should just book him an appointment and make sure he gets to it.
    In his rational moments when he faces the truth, I do wholeheartedly believe he DOES realise how bad he is. He just doesn't want to deal with it, I think. Grrr.

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    There are so many different methods out there that parents use when teaching and bringing up their children. I'm not about to go into all of them, but my pet peeve is parents who give a command to their child, only to then turn their backs and completely ignore the child. Not once do they turn around and check to ensure the child has obeyed.
    What's the bloody point in the first place. This really does peeve me off, and I also think explains a great deal of what children get away with these days - and why.

    Know where you are coming from Jodz. Throughout your posts regarding children over the past few months I have come to the conclusion that you see children TRULY as they are, even your own. You see the good points in them, as well as the bad, just as you probably do in everybody, including yourself. If we can't look at ourselves and our children honestly, there is no hope. I cannot tolerate those who believe their children are angels. They are alive, therefore cannot be angels! Lol.

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    I forgot to mention, Jodz I agree with you on the parents who think their kids are akin to God.

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