No matter how carefully I think a post through - it can still be misunderstood, or key bits of it skipped. And people can react in ways I didn't expect. If they're laughing, that's ok, but if they're outraged - and I didn't intend that - then ouch. But I can't take responsibility for their choice, even if I have to live with it. I can do my bit to avoid making it worse, ie refraining from posting a reactive response to someone else's outrage. And sometimes I do and sometimes I don't.
And I've been guilty of not reading enough of a post or series of posts to get the full story before I respond in a way that might be less than friendly.
I get vaguely peeved when I make a suggestion that I intend to be helpful, and the person I address it to - gets upset. For example. I can't read Goodiesgirl's hot pink posts. They might look ok on a Mac but they don't look good on my monitor. Although Goodiesgirl might take that on board gracefully - other people get outraged when I make similar suggestions.
I do find it interesting that every time anyone starts a thread about being more courteous on this forum, someone else takes it as a personal attack, and "returns fire". If you've read more than one thread around here, you'll notice that many of us have our moments. To paraphrase a famous quote, Let the person who has never been hypocritical cast the first insult?
And a word from the spelling nazi in me.
"Hypocrite" - meaning pretending to be good when you are not, is not phonetic.
And a word from the trivia nut in me
Hippocratic oath - was named for a Greek guy Hippocrates - who came up with the idea that all medical doctors should agree to do no (deliberate) harm to their patients. The opposite of what a hypocrite does.
Monty Python and the Holy Grail (1975) - Memorable quotes
I like this bit...
Dennis: Oh, but you can't expect to wield supreme executive power just because some watery tart threw a sword at you.