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    Quote Originally Posted by Megan View Post
    I'm a little offended at the generalisations against young Mums. I gave birth at 18 (not a planned pregnancy but hey, women of all ages can have an 'oopsie' baby). I cared for her from the day she was born. I never expected my parents to help raise her. I grew distant from all my friends because I had taken on the mum role. I did the night feedings, went to MCHN appointments, joined playgroups etc.
    I've learned everything through trial & error (as all parents do). And yep, my second child was planned and I was 19 when I fell pregnant with him because I wanted my children close in age.
    My husband is in a very secure job and I'm enjoying being a SAHM until both the kids are in school.

    People can be not-so-great parents at any age and I think it's highly unfair to assume that all young mums aren't cut out for the job.
    I agree with that comment, and would also possibly choose to be offended myself if anyone had said that. But no-one has said that, Megan.

    Not ALL young mums are like you. Actually, in my experience you and others like you who have obviously taken on parenthood responsibly and maturely are in the minority, NOT the majority. Hell no, I don't have stastical figures from the Govt or Centrelink to back up my opinion on that, and I also don't feel I should be required to here. It is MY OPINION that a large majority of young teen mothers just should not be having children.

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    grrr I am so effing angry with the b/f right now, he is a selfish hypocritical so and so, threatened by the work I do with animals, accusing me of preferring them over him! It's always MY fault, never his, and I'm getting fed up with it, I'm soo over it. I deserve better...think I'm just not cut out for a relationship!

    The latest is because last weekend I went to help whippersnip the runs in the morning at kennels we keep some of our rescues for a couple of hours instead of spending time with him, at lunchtime I left to go straight to his place, called him to say I was on my way and he told me to go home instead. He has always known I am heavily involved with rescue, it is my passion.

    Right now I DO prefer my animals over him, do I question his commitment to his kids? No! I understand they come first, I hate that he sees them as competition.

    So tonight on msn (he never confronts me face to face) I copped it yet again, I kept my cool, but inside I am fuming!

    Rant over....

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    I don't have any kids of my own.

    I've got a few nieces and a nephew. And lots of friends with little kids.

    As best I can tell - no mum, no matter how much study she put into it, is quite ready for her first child - it always does something that wasn't in the books or classes. And the second child - isn't often like the first one.

    However I think that younger mums 18 - 22 or so have the best stamina, ability to go all night and all day for a few days in a row without sleeping, and then sleep whenever the opportunity presents. And a 22yo recovers/heals much quicker than a 32yo or a 42 yo.

    But an older mum has the advantage (usually) of more life experience and more experience in the variety of people that humanity has to offer, and is sometimes more financially secure.

    I've heard a lot that how much money a kid has doesn't matter much to a kid, but I think that would be a kid that never gets to watch commercial telly or hollywood movies (product placement). And that kid would have trouble following some conversations that other kids have at kindy/school.

    I think it is probably a lot easier to get through school and uni without a kid but I know a few mums who have managed to do it so not impossible. And I know a lot of mums (but not dads) that get discriminated against in the work force because they (mums) take more time off to look after the kids. Dads - in my experience - tend to bring them in to work - which is fine if the kid is healthy but not so good if it is ill and shares its cold with the rest of us.

    I think the best world would be a young mum with her own mum still young enough and willing to help. I think that's the way it used to be when we all still lived hunter gatherer or subsistance farming. Mums were very young then.

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    greys are great

    you need a bf that will come and help you with the whipper snippering and bring his kids with him. I had a bf briefly who came and mucked out stables with us but the novelty wore off after a while but he didn't whinge about me not spending enough time with him, when I'd just invite him to come too.

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    Him come and HELP! hahahaha! He knows I get overwhelmed with what has to be done around my property yet never offers to help me, yet I get little snide remarks when I don't help him clean up when he has a rental inspection - if it can't be done from the comfort of his sofa then he's not interested.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GreysAreGreat View Post
    Him come and HELP! hahahaha! He knows I get overwhelmed with what has to be done around my property yet never offers to help me, yet I get little snide remarks when I don't help him clean up when he has a rental inspection - if it can't be done from the comfort of his sofa then he's not interested.
    There are so many things I could say about your BF right now, but they would be something like this....**** ********* ******!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cleasanta View Post
    There are so many things I could say about your BF right now, but they would something like this....**** ********* ******!
    I hear ya Clea, and I agree!

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    Quote Originally Posted by GreysAreGreat View Post
    I hear ya Clea, and I agree!
    you know...sometimes we just have to cut our losses when "things" are pulling us down...if you get me

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    I know what you mean, and I've had my doubts for some time - I guess I just want to be able to say I did everything I could to make things work, I have never complained about how much time he spends with his kids, nor would I ever as it's something I respect him for (and they are great kids). I DO try to see things from his point of view, but I don't think he tries to see things from mine. Think I need to calm down, and go to bed, my sleeping tablet is kicking in!

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    I'm off to a sheep sale in the morning.. Joys of being a stockie's wife but I do get to go to pet shop and look at new kennel for boss. Also I got told that I gotta do sheep work on saturday morning.

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