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    She tried to tell me not to teach my dog agility on lead. I did it anyway

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    Quote Originally Posted by Occy View Post
    She tried to tell me not to teach my dog agility on lead. I did it anyway
    I think they all too often forget .... "you dog, your choice" when it comes to training ... you live with the dog & they don't.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Liza View Post
    I understand that we have different views on it I'm exactly the same as you - I just can't comprehend why some people want kids so badly. I just can't feel what they feel. I mean I don't think that you have to have kids to be a family, and I don't feel the urge to pass on my genes. And I don't really feel like I have to have a child to feel 'complete' in any way - I'm already complete I know there are many reasons people want kids, I just can't comprehend those emotions.
    Liza, you're not the only one - I feel exactly the same as you and so does my husband (fortunately).

    I realise I'm only 23 and one day in the very very distant future my opinion may change. Hubby and I have talked about adopting if we do ever decide to have kids. The thought of being pregnant makes me feel physically ill.

    What makes me sad is that the people who are meant to accept you no matter what - your family - are the ones that have the biggest issue with the way we feel. My parents have a grandchild thanks to my brother, so they don't really mind that they'll probably only get "furgrandkids" from us. Hubby's mother refuses to believe that this is the way we feel though and as a result has caused many arguments - she firmly believes we have to have our own kids, not adopt. I ended up telling her that her son would have to find another wife then. What she needs to realise is this is our life - this is the way we feel - it's our decision what we do with our lives and it's noone else decision but mine what I do with my body.

    Occy - that annoys me with dog training too - when people think they know your dogs better than you and how you should teach them. BTW, I'd love to hear more about agility one day. It looks like such fun - not sure I have the right dogs breeds for it though...

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    For those of you prepared to stand up and say you don't want kids. I admire you. Alot of people judge others for making such a decision as if there is something wrong with them. There are enough unwanted children out there and children being born for ALL the wrong reasons. Good on ya for thinking of the children first. If you know it's not for you but go ahead because of peer pressure what kind of life is the kid going to have.

    I have 3 children 17,14, and 5. The first I had at 25. It has been a roller coaster ride and, although I obviously love them all to bits. If I knew what I know now, then, I think I would have waited til I was older but hey, life's an adventure, if we knew where all our decisions took us we probably wouldn't make half of them.

    However, people do change so I would urge no-one to take drastic measures about their fertility until they are past childbearing age, unless there is a medical reason obviously.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Megan View Post
    I fell pregnant with my daugther at 17. I was shocked & scared at first but my maternal instincts kicked in as soon as she was born. Sure I missed out on the 'going out clubbing' stage but I wouldn't change a thing
    I had my oldest son at 18. Now if everything had been running along smoothly...it wouldn't have been so bad, but it didn't. Marc had a haemorrhage in his brain...followed by a stroke during the birth and a emergency CS was performed. After the birth...he then had severe seizures...he had heart surgery at 14 months.

    I had to grow up REALLY quickly for my son's sake and it is not something I would want any young mum to witness. It was extremely hard...I spent the first 9 months out of Marc first year in hospitals with him.

    I can understand why some women just do not have that feeling of wanting kids, but things can change. You find that one special person and your circumstances change Take things as they come and enjoy your life

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cleasanta View Post
    I had my oldest son at 18. Now if everything had been running along smoothly...it wouldn't have been so bad, but it didn't. Marc had a haemorrhage in his brain...followed by a stroke during the birth and a emergency CS was performed. After the birth...he then had severe seizures...he had heart surgery at 14 months.

    I had to grow up REALLY quickly for my son's sake and it is not something I would want any young mum to witness. It was extremely hard...I spent the first 9 months out of Marc first year in hospitals with him.

    I can understand why some women just do not have that feeling of wanting kids, but things can change. You find that one special person and your circumstances change Take things as they come and enjoy your life
    How terrifying that must have been. It's amazing how much you can mature and how much responsibility you can take on for a precious little life who depends on you. Well done to you, that must have been harder than words can express

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    I have to say I have never been maternal, but I always thought that if I met the right person that I'd just naturally want to have his children. Well, I never met the right person (hell, I hardly even got a date let alone a relationship!) so the opportunity was never there for me.

    I'm not sad that I never had them, but I AM sad that I was never in a position to make a choice, if that makes sense. I figure if I'd wanted them badly enough I could have found a donor and done it on my own, but I didn't want that.

    Maybe just as well, I would have been a nightmare of a mother!

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    I chose not to have children because there is a history of genetically inherited mental illness in my family & there weren't the tests available then that there are now. I don't regret my decision for one minute.

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    I'm amazed to hear some of your stories. Clea, you're so brave. You too Megan.

    And Bella, you're far nicer to your MIL than I would be! Ugh.

    No way I'm having kids yet...No one is gunna convince me

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    Any breed can do agility - from Chihuahua to Greyhound - I've seen it!!

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