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    Quote Originally Posted by GreysAreGreat View Post
    I bet there will be a few other attendees that will breathe a sigh of relief...
    Precisely Greys. I've done everyone a huge favour I think & we should see some good handlers & dogs go on to trial now & represent the club with great pride & honour.

    Over the years I've watched this woman reduce people to tears (myself included) in a training ring. If they've got a dog with the potential to beat her in an Obedience ring, she'll grind them down, so they lose all confidence to go on & trial their dog and they eventually leave club, never to be heard of again. Unfortunately, she is just not able to separate trophy hunter from trainer when she gets someone good in the ring to train.

    The best mentor & trainer I ever had while I was bringing Zena through, was a club member who was also an instructor, competitor & judge in the discipline. Unfortunately he had a fatal heart attack right in front of us at a dog trial. Gone too soon at 46. Zena just loved him. There were very few people she would let willingly touch her. This chap was one of them & she got her best scores ever every time we stepped into a ring with him when he was judging.

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    A big pat on your back, well done!

    Any posts made under the name of Di_dee1 one can be used by anyone as I do not give a rats.

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    Thanks Di. I'll breathe a little easier when I get that first week back under my belt.

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    Well done GSD, looks like some good came of it after all. Yay for April 8ers, changing the world - one asshole at a time.

    Fingers crossed all goes well when you go back. Stay strong, you know what you're doing and what is right for you and Spirit
    The best things in life, aren't things

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    Gawd GSDs4Ever

    I'm glad I don't feel that way about any of the instructors in my dog club. There's a couple I avoid because I either can't hear them (they're too quiet) or I can't understand them (strange accent). There's one quite fierce one, but I quite like her because she's totally and completely fair and is looking for the best in your dog. Even though she's one of the ones that passed the stupid woman with her crazy black lab when it wasn't ready - I think I'd have done the same.

    I do tell anyone I recommend that club to, that every club is different and if they don't like that particular club or instructors, that there are other places to go and one will be right for them. Better they find somewhere else than quit and have a crazy untrained dog that nobody wants to take for a walk.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tkay View Post
    Stay strong, you know what you're doing and what is right for you and Spirit
    I just wasn't prepared to put little Spirit through all this & of course, not go through it all again myself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tkay View Post
    my 5 yr old's is a bit 'odd'. I'm a little worried about when he grows up. He's born on 14 Dec. If you get chance have a look, I'm sure you'll know which bit I mean
    Hmmm .... I see what you mean. I suggest you "file, store, click" this information ... and keep him away from the red cordial.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GSDs4Ever View Post
    Alright, I'll post then ... with apologies to DA ....

    As part of this "tome" I gave the Pres, I spoke at length about a particular bully that instructs the trial rings each Sunday. I gave examples of the continually cruel & demeaning treatment I had received at the hands of this person both inside the ring & around the club grounds over many years of training Zena in preparation for trial work.

    With Spirit now showing enormous potential to do even better than Zena, I was now clearly stating that I would no longer put myself in the position of having to endure further abuse from this person. As such, I have chosen my own mentor & trainer for Spirit & myself that I will work with in the rings on a Sunday. Further more, I want it clearly understood that & I would be no longer stepping into a training ring with this person under any circumstances as their training "Style" & the manner in which they speak to handlers was very inappropriate for me.

    I didn't name the person in the document, but the Pres spoke with me after he'd read the letter & I told him then.

    Well, at the end of the meeting today, this person stood up & announced that they would continue to instruct in a Wed night, but for the next 12 months, they would no longer be instructing on a Sunday either in the training rings or on the grounds, but would be only attending to train their dog.

    One trophy hunting, back stabbing, demoralising bitch down ... one to go when I get back to club next week. Although this 2nd person is fairly weak & as I mentioned their unsolicited comments about how she wouldn't have passed Spirit into grade 4 were not warranted & I named her in the document, she may very well think further about opening her big trap either in front of me or behind my back in the future.

    I'm not getting too excited at this stage. Anything could happen next week.
    Oh FFS, HOW DID I MISS THIS!!!

    She's gone from that training????????????

    Told ya, told ya, told ya...you are WAY more powerful than you think!

    Not only fantastic news for you and Spirit baby, she is now not at those sessions to terrorise all the other good ppl too. This is wicked news GSD's. Totally wicked.
    I also believe it is a premonition of what you will (not may - WILL) achieve with that other bitch that's giving so much curry.

    Like you said and did, state things as they are with no emotion, back it up with times, places and pure fact. There are lots of good ppl out there who are willing to listen and step in and do something when they see an injustice being done. I'm glad this happened in your case. See, letter was worth it, and we are all exceptionally proud that you did it!!!

    Now get a move on 2010! I honestly believe this year is going to turn out far better than you can foresee or anticipate.

    Now, what's this book? GSD's? TKay?

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    Yeah I want to know what this book is too!! I love reading that sorta stuff.

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    Dunno Matey. "Greys" reckoned she was going to find you before I posted so you would be here to read the news with everyone else.

    Nup, she's still there, but she'll only instruct on a Wed night (I'm too tired to train at night). On a Sunday, she'll be just another "pleb in the line up". We'll see what happens when I front up with my girls next Sunday.

    DA, I'm not getting at all excited at this stage as I don't want to falter in my resolve. I've known this woman for 11 years now & she just doesn't "fold" like that. She's possibly got something planned to "put me in my place" in the class environment. She's had 3 months to "think'" about things & get a game plan together.

    I've got to say publicly now DA ... I feel a bit "Zena (pun intended) Warrior Princess" right now because of how you've "stayed the course" with me over the Summer break with this particular issue & a whole bunch more stuff that you're helping me with right now. You rock mate !!

    I think it was Di_Dee1 ... sorry if it was someone else ... who said being "factual" in that 4 page letter was the "way to go" & the mature thing to do.

    I guess the real test will be next week. How people now perceive me & react to what I've done. Can they push me back to where I was because they feel uncomfortable & have to put me back "in my place" with just one withering comment. Have I rattled people that much? Are all the other "victims" of the abuse happy that it's all going to stop now even though they were too scared to say something before this ? I would hope so. I didn't do this for them, but if it makes a difference & helps them to move on & get a bit of "I rock !! I can do this as well !" in their lives then .... is all I can say.

    One thing's for sure ... in writing that letter, I "Felt the fear & did it anyway". There's no going back now, so I'd better "man up" & be prepared to back up my words with actions when I take that first class at 10 o'clock with young Spirit next Sunday & then go over to the training ring to take instruction from the trainer & mentor I selected "against the rules". It's the beginning of our trialling career & I want the most positive environment for the 2 of us. Spirit is an exceptional dog when it comes to her potential in the Obedience trial ring, so this day was going to eventually come. I just had to get the "balls" about me to step up to her standard & meet her half way as a reliable "working partner".

    If this whole "saga", and the out pouring of my heart & soul in all these posts & all your replies & PM's of support for myself & Spirit gives someone else the courage to take that first all important step from "I'm so scared, I'll get hurt" to "I might be able to as she's done it .... & she lived to talk about it" then it has all been worth every gut wrenching moment of revealing all my insecurities for your public consumption & critique.

    I so hope that next Sunday will be "incident free", but if it isn't, then The Universe has been setting me up for "Yep, you did alright with the whole letter & chatting to your friends thing on that forum over the Summer break. Let's see how you do in the real world, when someone's actually standing right in front of you, attacking you."

    I'm a work in progress. The Universe & it's lessons is always just one step ahead of me ... and that's how The Universe works fellow "Space Cadets"

    Quote Originally Posted by Devil's Advocate View Post
    Oh FFS, HOW DID I MISS THIS!!!

    She's gone from that training????????????

    Told ya, told ya, told ya...you are WAY more powerful than you think!

    Not only fantastic news for you and Spirit baby, she is now not at those sessions to terrorise all the other good ppl too. This is wicked news GSD's. Totally wicked.
    I also believe it is a premonition of what you will (not may - WILL) achieve with that other bitch that's giving so much curry.

    Like you said and did, state things as they are with no emotion, back it up with times, places and pure fact. There are lots of good ppl out there who are willing to listen and step in and do something when they see an injustice being done. I'm glad this happened in your case. See, letter was worth it, and we are all exceptionally proud that you did it!!!

    Now get a move on 2010! I honestly believe this year is going to turn out far better than you can foresee or anticipate.

    Now, what's this book? GSD's? TKay?

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