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    My two wait at the gate for me as well, only around the usual time we are due home though!

    There is no psychiatrist in the world like a puppy licking your face.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kuri_89 View Post
    Story sound eerily familiar lol,

    Molly had the worst separation anxiety from the day i got her (shelter dog) i didn't do much in regards to training it out of her, TBH i had no idea how. As soon as she saw my work bag she would mope and carry on until i walked out the door. I felt very bad especially as i was working split shifts at the time and i couldn't even go home on the break so she was away from me for around 12hours a day. My mum would usually kidnap her as soon as she finished work and i found myself having to do a detour nearly every night from work to pick her up from my mums place lol

    Eventually i told mum to get her own dog as i was sick of fighting her for mine lol, so she adopted Benji (4 year old bichon) and we thought great, a friend for Molly! But Benji had no interest in Molly and we ended back up at square one with a moping dog lol. Anyway mum ended up adopting another called Rexy and it was love at first sight with him and Molly. Now (thank god) she couldn't care less whether i'm around or not, as long as he is around!

    Now they all stay with me during the day as my hours at work have been cut right back. Whilst i am at work they are outdoors, they each get a brisket bone & toy's to play with whilst i am gone as well as access to our swimming pool - they enjoy bathing on the steps (approx 4 hours). When i am at home they are able to wander in and out of the house as they please.

    Exercise consists of a half hour walk 6am in the morning, and we either head to the off-leash area in the afternoon, or go for an hour walk (without little Benji otherwise i endup carrying him lol) sometimes i will take Rex for a bike ride around the block as he is a cattle dog and needs to burn off more steam than the others. Mum usually picks her two up around 6pm and takes them for another walk, so they are very luck in regards to excercise.

    In regards to getting your boy interested in your girl, i don't have any answers. Maybe they just don't connect? has he shown interest in any other dogs at all? He might just enjoy human company (like my mum's bichon) I'm sure there are others who can give you some tips on anxiety training (like leaving the house for a short period, come back then do it again)
    My boy, Axle, has been friendly with dogs he has met. I admit, I didn't socialise him as well as I could/should have (I guess I didn't know any different back then) but he did go to doggy school and was friendly with all the dogs, even the Border Collie that tried to take a piece out of him but ended up biting my leg. He did have a few Staffy play mates back then too, of all ages, female and male.

    He doesn't growl at dogs at the vet but he does seem to get very excited sometimes. Actually, I take that back. He did growl at an over excited Staffy in the kennel next to him at the vet, didn't bare teeth but he did growl.

    I had them both outside together for quite a while yesterday, after taking them both on a long walk separately. He seems to be paying attention to her a little bit more but he just seems as though he would prefer my attention, though he doesn't fight for my attention when she's around. If I'm patting him and she comes up, he will simply walk away. If I'm patting her, he doesn't show any interest most of the time.

    Maybe it's just not meant to be.. If only he could tell me! lol

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    Haha, I just realised I can multi-quote. Oops! I'm slowly getting used to this forum.. slowly.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mandella View Post
    I don't expect the new girl to do miracles with his anxiety, I guess it's more so I don't feel bad when I go to work.

    I know how it feels when they watch you through the gate as you drive away.. It makes me feel so guilty all day. Then when I pull into the driveway, there he is, watching me, wagging his tail AND then he starts squealing and jumping on the fence again.

    They still do that when there is two of em

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    OR four.

    Any posts made under the name of Di_dee1 one can be used by anyone as I do not give a rats.

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    i find that she doesn't mind so much when i leave anymore, however when i come home from work i can see all three of there noses poking out from underneath the garage door LOL. They all jump and run in circles, bark and carry on when i get home (which probably isn't the best, but i enjoy it.)

    Sometimes i worry with Molly about how I've changed her dependency from myself to Rex. I fear how she may react if one day Rexy was no longer around. I'm possibly creating a even bigger problem....

    There is also that lingering problem that possibly soon i may not be within driving distance for the other two dogs to stay with us. Either i'm going to have to take Rex with me, which is probably no idyllic when I eventually get into the police force - i simply will not be able to give him his current exercise regime, or have to leave Molly behind with Mum (i'd prefer not to, but i have to do what is best for her.)

    Maybe having two dogs who rely on eachother is a disadvantage...

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    I've thought about two dogs relying on each other being a disadvantage too, and if we go away it'll be more difficult with two. I just don't think it's fair on Axle being alone when I'm at work all the time, and I know I should do what's best for him. I know this sounds so selfish but I would never be able to part with him... Never. I just think no one would be able to give him the care and love the way I do, the way he's used to. Sigh.

    I am thinking about discussing with my in laws (after all, when we lived there for 12 months, Axle was spoilt rotten by them and was not given his own time while i was at work, despite my rules, which kind of added to his anxiety) that if I let them keep the female (which they really want to as mentioned) then maybe once a week they can doggy-sit Axle so he's not left alone for more than two days in a row. I'm just worried that if a dog fight breaks out while mr is at work, the mrs doesn't drive so it could be a recipe for disaster. Like my partner says, I think the worst of everything lol.

    However Axle did seem more playful outside this morning with her but he still doesn't seem happy when she's inside. He just keeps nipping her until she gets frustrated. Perhaps it's a play thing but once I let her back outside, Axle seems to get excited when I walk in without her lol then relaxes and falls asleep. Maybe there's my sign/answer...

    Thanks to everyone for giving me some insight to your lives with your dogs, and also the advice. x

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    Well I had one dog for the first 2 years, and didn't exactly plan on bringing another home just yet... However, I now have one 2 year old mostly doberman and 1 12 week old RR x Dobe. Sammy was never an anxious dog when home alone (which is lucky because he's alone 10 hours a day), but he does become depressed as soon as he sees me putting on a suit in the mornings. He was a bit anxious when he was younger though, probably up until about 8 months even so how old is your dog? Sometimes they can just grow out of these things.
    Now with the 2nd dog, he is still depressed in the mornings (head resting on paws and general mopiness) but when I get home from work, he's not quite as crazy. They seem to tire each other out a lot because fortunately (or maybe unfortunately), they're both crazy high energy dogs. I think the key thing for me was finding a dog that wanted what Sammy wanted. Yes she wasn't exactly planned, but as soon as I saw them together I knew they were a good match - neither will give an inch and they can both run all day. If I wanted to bring home a submissive type, I would not be able to leave them unsupervised because Sammy can be a bit overwhelming for more reserved dogs. They both like their human family more than each other, but they are still good friends and provide good company for each other whilst we're away.

    So it could be the dog - some dogs just click with each other and vice versa. Or it could be that your dog doesn't derive comfort from dog-dog relationships, only human-dog relationships. I know Sammy finds a fun distraction in Zoe and that's about it at this stage, but truthfully I do feel a lot less guilty about leaving him each day for work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 99bottles View Post
    Well I had one dog for the first 2 years, and didn't exactly plan on bringing another home just yet... However, I now have one 2 year old mostly doberman and 1 12 week old RR x Dobe. Sammy was never an anxious dog when home alone (which is lucky because he's alone 10 hours a day), but he does become depressed as soon as he sees me putting on a suit in the mornings. He was a bit anxious when he was younger though, probably up until about 8 months even so how old is your dog? Sometimes they can just grow out of these things.

    So it could be the dog - some dogs just click with each other and vice versa. Or it could be that your dog doesn't derive comfort from dog-dog relationships, only human-dog relationships. I know Sammy finds a fun distraction in Zoe and that's about it at this stage, but truthfully I do feel a lot less guilty about leaving him each day for work.
    My boy will be three in March. He wasn't too bad as a pup - As far as I remember he didn't mind being left outside while I went to work but back then I didn't work as far and my hours weren't as long. I am trying to find somewhere closer to home to make it easier for the both of us.

    When he was almost one, we moved in with my in laws (I think I may have previously mentioned this?). My mother in law was home during the day and had two dogs of her own but she was too worried to leave my boy out with her two dogs, which is fair enough I guess. She has a dog run in the yard and, as discussed, my boy was suppose to have a decent amount of alone time and he wasn't suppose to be let inside while he was whimpering at the door. I guess I can't be too annoyed as I am thankful for her letting us move in but she spoilt my boy rotten and enjoyed that he followed her EVERYWHERE around the house. He slept for most of the day (if he wasnt following her around) and went crazy when I got home. He was walked most mornings by her or both of us if it was my day off, and of course I walked him almost every afternoon to release some energy. So this is where I believe his separation anxiety began...

    The more I have my boy with the new girl, the more they seem to play. My boy seems to enjoy playing tug of war with her now; he usually takes his tyre to her when they are outside together. But at the same time, I think he does enjoy his time without her. I bring him inside for a few hours a day (I am off work at the moment) without her, and he seems thankful. When they are both inside together, they play tug but they both seem to get more frustrated with each other.

    Like I have mentioned, my in laws would love to keep her and if they cant, they are going to get another staffy (which will then be a hassle when we all go away together, three staffords in the one house!!! and who knows what their stafford would be like). I feel I should work on my boys separation anxiety first as I didn't realise it had gotten as bad as it has (my partner just had holidays, now I am on holidays, I'm assuming the change in routine is what has made it worse). I have started from the beginning, getting ready and picking up my keys then going back to what I was doing etc. I've just bought some new toys to rotate outside with him (maybe it may help? maybe not), and I might bring the crate back out (he isn't always in the same room as me while I am home anyway). I guess if my in laws do keep her, perhaps I'll suggest for them to doggysit my boy once a week so at least he wont be outside alone for so many days in a row, and at least him and the female can still spend some time together so when we all go away it may make things that little bit easier if they are on decent terms.

    My boy is breaking my heart though... I really wish I could do more for him.

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    To a certain extent your boy sounds like one of mine. Not too interested in strange dogs, but likes his own family of dogs and takes a little while to warm to them. My mums tiny little Chi can come for holidays and he accepts him because Jasper comes on a regular basis. He likes his own puppies, even when they are very young, which most stud dogs don't have a lot of time for, to him it's all about "are you an important part of the family".

    I think you make a good point, if your in-laws get another dog then that's another dog for him to get used to and accept when you all get together. Whereas he could possibly enjoy the best of both worlds if they keep the current girl & he visits there from time to time. A friend when he needs one, but when you are about he's the one and only so to speak.

    If there has been several upheavals in recent months this can be enough to upset a sensitive dog. But given time he'll adjust again and it's sounds like you've got a good plan worked out for dealing with his SA.

    Don't feel too bad that he enjoys getting away from her, all my dogs with the exception of his mother can not get away from the 5 month old pup fast enough. It's just the way many dogs are and it's often to keep themselves just that little bit elevated.

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