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    I knew very shortly after we took him that he had advanced lymphoma, too late to treat.....i thought i would be fine and give him the time of his life. because his life had been so very bad. Toby came from the Quenbeyan pound and had been there for three weeks. We were made aware of his plight by a rescue person.
    He also had a fractured jaw, which no one knew about and still has to be hand fed, because he cannot pick up food. The jaw has healed, but because it was not attended too, it is not properly aligned. And he was so very thin, because people thought he would not eat........poor lad could not eat
    It does not seem to matter that we have not had him for years. We seem to have fallen hopelessly for him. But i find the sad feelings i have almost unbearable.
    We try to make his life full, but the dreaded lump keeps growing and growing. he seems to have no pain. pooping,peeing and eating happily. It is those not happening, that I keep looking for that will tell me, when
    I have to let him go.......i have spoken with the vet, he says i will know. But it is so hard, so D#%&*# hard to adore this dog and watch him die.
    He is so happy, friendly and gregarious. he loves to play and also sit with you quietly and look up at you adoringly. i know he does not know and i am trying to be happy for him. But it is soooo hard
    Who could have left this gorgeous boy at the shelter and hurt him so.........Toby is nine.

    Tobias enjoying life


    The pack.........Toby at he back



    Tobias
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    Newfsie, I don't know how... When my wolfhound was diagnosed with bone cancer ( within the space of three weeks a lump appeared and grew and by the time we had the diagnosis the cancer had pervaded his body ) I had one week with him before he was euthanized. 'Kealan' had the lump on a hind leg and the bone had begun to look like honeycomb and was likely to break at any time. So I took time off work, and we were together 24/7 for that final week. I tried to cope, but in reality I fell apart completely. In some ways I think knowing and waiting is so much harder than dealing with the unexpected after the fact.

    Tobias is a lucky guy to have the opportunity to spend some time in your pack.

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    I know how you feel as well. We adopted a pound dog, he was one of the best. We had him for 18 months before he developed lymphoma. He was only 5. We were told he would live for 3-5 weeks. He lived for 3 months and everyday was hard. The last week was the worst as you could see it was starting to affect him. He was eating less and the weight was coming off and the lumps grew so fast...........................I agree with V&F the waiting game is the hardest.
    He is a very regal looking boy.
    Thinking of you.

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    His such a lovley boy at least he can spend sometime with some friends he gets to spend the rest of his life happily.

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    Hi newfsie,
    3 weeks ago I lost my 15 yr old border collie, and I understand how hard it is to watch them get worse and worse. His tumour just was getting bigger and bigger and it started affecting other bodily functions until we decided it was time.
    For me, it was a hot day 3 weeks ago where he was lying down and was too weak to go to the toilet and so he went and just lay in it until I realised about an hour later. It was like a jolt to me, and I just knew this wasnt fair. It took me a while to get there - but I think you will know.
    I think of him non stop, im coping by trying to keep busy but it gets to me a number of times a day. I still question whether i did the right thing. But I guess what im trying to say is it is SO hard, but just give him love and as much life quality as possible and hopefully he will remember all the good times you gave him over the bad.

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    It is very hard. Thanks for giving him a loving home to end his life. It is only you that this is going to hurt. He is happy in the knowledge you love him and he is safe with you. All you can do is be there for him to the end.

    I have lost 3 dogs and each one has left its mark. It really is the worst thing.

    He is a beautiful boy and things could have been very different for him without you. He has known love. Dogs are uniquely bonded to man and each one should know that special bond and Toby has, if even for a short while.

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    Quote Originally Posted by babybeau View Post
    Hi newfsie,
    3 weeks ago I lost my 15 yr old border collie, and I understand how hard it is to watch them get worse and worse. His tumour just was getting bigger and bigger and it started affecting other bodily functions until we decided it was time.
    For me, it was a hot day 3 weeks ago where he was lying down and was too weak to go to the toilet and so he went and just lay in it until I realised about an hour later. It was like a jolt to me, and I just knew this wasnt fair. It took me a while to get there - but I think you will know.
    I think of him non stop, im coping by trying to keep busy but it gets to me a number of times a day. I still question whether i did the right thing. But I guess what im trying to say is it is SO hard, but just give him love and as much life quality as possible and hopefully he will remember all the good times you gave him over the bad.
    I am so sorry for your loss....it never get easier, i think we just learn to cope better with time. i too worry if i will know when the time comes. Right now he is so happy and still playful. i just hope I will know.........
    Pets are forever

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    Oh Newfsie

    He's such a beautiful boy. How wonderful it is that he has had such a marvellous time with you and your family.

    One day at a time is best. You will know when it's time. He will let you know, and it will be ok. to you and your beautiful boy, you are truly amazing to have given him the life and love he deserves.

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    Yes, you will know when it is time but please do not make the mistake that I did years ago.
    I should have had my BC put to sleep but I held out for too long, to the determent of the dog. I just loved and hoped too much. I will NEVER make that mistake again.
    It sounds as if yours still has good quality of life.

    It is never easy.

    Any posts made under the name of Di_dee1 one can be used by anyone as I do not give a rats.

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    He will let you know when he is ready, dogs know far more than we give them credit for, it is indeed hard to see them off but at least he has had a good ending in being with you.
    All the best.

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