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    Quote Originally Posted by JudgeTheDeedNotTheBreed View Post
    So I GOT THE JOB!!!!!!! and started yesterday!

    I went to the GSD Club and had such a good time! I spent most of the day with the 3 bitches I will be working with. 2 pups named Delta and Vixen and an older bitch named.........coincidental or what?.........Bailey!!!

    Im pretty well doing a crash course this week, be training everyday! Because on the weekend I have to handle Bailey during some breeding thing?! Not sure what it is (still learning lol) but she is a beautiful bitch although she is a little big for a female. Stands at 62 but one of the judges we spoke with yesterday said she may be able to get in 2nd class (i think lol, please bare with me )

    So I had a really good day! and then.................I came home

    Brad is not happy at all about it and has told me I need to choose between dogs and him and his daughters?! WTF????? Why the hell should I? Why cant I have both?!

    So anyway argued about it because I think he should be supportive about it and he thinks I being selfish!
    Anyway long story short he has told me when I get home tonight to pack my stuff and Bailey and leave

    Am I being selfish? I dont have any other hobbies or anything?!

    Maybe me leaving is for the best?!

    OK Rant over!
    You know what I think Rachel

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    What a terrible thing to happen after such a good day.
    I dont have any advise I'm sorry, I hope everything works out.

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    I just dont know what to think!

    Im probably going to sound selfish but they arent my kids! I love them dearly and TBH it wouldnt matter if they were mine because I would do it anyway!

    Am I supposed to put my life on hold because he has children?

    We get them most weekends now - pretty well when ever there mum wants to get on the piss, which is often.

    So am I suppose to be home and do nothing EVERY weekend? I just dont understand where he is coming from! *sigh*

    He just called me then and told me to enjoy my 'beastiality' considering they obviously do more for me than he can! WTF?!!!!! TBH yes they do do more for me than he can.....because Im not happy when Im with him (more often than not, because the fighting never stops) band the dogs just........love. They dont argue with me and they love me for who I am.

    Please just tell me Im not being sefish!......I dont FEEL like I am!

    Dorte.......I know what you think (pretty well same as my mum lol) and just for the record..........what you sent me has never left my mind! Its always there niggling at the back of my head.......... Im starting to think your words ring true.

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    What a horrible thing to say to you.

    Your not being selfish. Kids dont mean you have to put your life completely on hold. Personally I think if he's capable of saying those kind of things to you, your better off without him.

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    Is it possible that he is jealous because you have some freedom to do the things you enjoy and he feels he has none?

    My ex gave me the same marching orders before I left. He was in a bad mood and jealous because I had been out with the girls for the night and had come home half an hour later than I said I had. A major fight ensued, my response to the ultimatum was "You are big enough, strong enough and ugly enough to provide for yourself, the dog isn't, who do you think I'm going to pick?"

    You are not being selfish in any way, you are not being inconsiderate. Every couple should have things they do on their own, time away from one another - even if it's infrequent.

    Does he expect you to care for his children for him so he can laze about or is it just that he wants you tied up there and not enjoying yourself?

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    Oh Judge I'm sorry OH hasn't been able to see what this means for you.

    I too am a step-mother, we used to have the skids of a weekend, now we have them thru the week and the first weekend of the month.

    BM has asked for us to have them the easter weekend which is full of dog shows. My hubby has told the skids that we have dog shows and if they don't like it then they will have to discuss with their mother if they can go with her, which I doubt. If not they know to pack stuff to keep themselves entertained. SS12 normally helps me out and SD14 will plug in her music and chill out.

    My hubby isn't into the shows like I am, he goes there to support me. Normally takes along a couple of bike magazines, a book, holds dogs for me and other friends, chats away to people, takes a couple of beers and has a good sleep in his chair.

    Would he go if I didn't - no. But he knows I love it and it's my hobby.

    Last night I felt ill and went to bed at 7:30 he fed the pups and other dogs, cleaned up the mess and made another batch of soaked food ready for me this morning.

    As for the kids they find friends at the shows too and may even become interested in child handler etc. My best mates granddaughter can't wait until she reaches 7 so that she can have a dog of her own. And if Poppy goes to a show without her there is a tantrum.

    I can't advise you what to do that's why I'm telling you my story.

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    I don't for one second think you are selfish for wanting to get on with YOUR life!

    Do what your heart tells you to do...follow your gut instincts

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    It is tough being a step parent, i gained 2 teenagers when i got married and it was amazingly hard. My husbands ex had no interest in the kids so they lived with us full time, an boy did we have some arguments about it.

    It is hard enough raising some one else's kids, but being a step parent without the bond or authority of the parent makes it really hard.

    i am not telling you what to do, but i know that if i didn't have my own hobbies and distractions during that time we would not be married now!

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    Judge, I think you know what you have to do. You are so young. To have a man who supposedly loves me give me an ultimative such as that would make me vomit.
    You have your whole life ahead of you. I also have a strong gut feeling you deserve a hell of a lot better. Just my opinion though.

    I'm with Cleas, do what you heart tells you. I think you know what that is. Hugs to you. This WILL pass.

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    I don't understand Judge why your other half wouldn't look at the time you spend at the shows as time he can spend one on one with his kids.

    While my hubby joins me for the shows he doesn't at the obedience club, he uses that time to indulge his love of motor bikes or hanging with his kids and keeping that special bond going.

    He also believes the bond and involvement he has with his kids now is far greater than he had when he was married to their mother.

    I hope things will settle down and your OH can see he can make the most of this situation too.
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