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    I'd love to know what opinions other owners (and their families) hold regarding the family dog.

    I'm 41 and for 31 of those years I've always lived with GS dogs. Growing up, they belonged to my father. Sure, they loved us kids and my mother, would obey our commands any time they were given one, and spend lots of time with us, but they were my father's. He was always their "Master", not only in his eyes, but ours as well as the dogs!

    As an adult, dogs I've shared my life with were always owned by me - I was the "Master." My first husband had very little experience with dogs, and although he grew to adore the dogs, it was once again fairly obvious whose dogs they were.

    Now my second husband has no experience with dogs whatsoever! My eldest son spent some of his life growing up with the GSD's, so he does.

    My eldest started an interesting convo the other day about who will this new puppy truly belong to. I stated that he/she will belong to all of us, he/she will be the family's dog. Son pointed out that won't work. He pointed out that I feed it, I refill it's water bowl all day and night, I groom it, I train it, I walk it, I am the only one home that it will spend every minute of it's day with, day in and day out. His point was that whether I think so or not, I will be it's Master.

    I agree with my son. I have no doubt that's how it will turn out. It's the same with the new cat. Wherever I go, she follows me, whatever I do, she wants to be there doing it too. Not quite the same with the others yet.

    Hubby really can't comprehend this. Although he is happy to acknowledge that it really is my dog, as I want it so badly, I'm the one prepared to do everything for and with it (hell, it's MY Christmas present!) he still doesn't seem able to understand. How do I explain it to him?
    And how do others deal with this within their family heirarchy?

    *Sorry for the loooooooong post*

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    Molly tends to be more Daddies girl, but that only changed once he started training her. Jack is the biggest Mummies boy EVER! He's such a sook! And Mia is my princess! They moreso worked it out for themselves.
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    You may not have to DA. I do everything for my birds but when hubby is here and they are out, I may as well not exist. Same with Pretty, all goes out the window if he and the ute come up the driveway. I feel all have their place, no one has to take top place, that all though need to be consistent with whatever decisions are made re training and what is to happen and how it will be accomplished.

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    I hope you're right Di. Zed was the first dog I've had since marrying my second husband.

    I think the reason the boys and I have that opinion is because even after years of living with a vet, my hubby still cannot retain much info to be consistent etc. He has a mental deficiency that I don't wish to discuss here.

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    We found that Bella picked her own "master." Although the kids played with her etc, the bulk of her care was done by me (same as your situation, DA.) Although obedient to all the family, she's obviously decided I'm the "main man." She won't leave her bed in our room until I get up in the morning, even if I have a sleep in. I feel guilty when I finally get up, cos she bolts outside for a huge pee. Poor old girl!

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    I have usually found that the dog tends to bond the most with the person who is not only with him/her the majority of the time, but the one who also does the most with them, such as food and constant training etc...

    Having said that, I used to work full time and my first hubby (last sob that he was would sit around with the dogs most of the day) yet still, like with Di's husband, the moment I would get home, my OH wouldn't exist for them! Lol.

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    Once the excitement of him being home is over she seems to be happy with either of us.

    I just hope the situation of ....hmmm save Di from something or other, or...hmmm go in the ute never comes up lol.

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    The situation here is that I am here with the dogs all day...I feed them...I pat them...I reprimand them...I show them etc etc.

    I know hubby would love for them to have the same relationship with him as they do with me...but they don't. They are happy to see him when he gets home, but won't come to him for a cuddle the same way they do with me. Don't get me wrong...they love Steve and the kids!

    The dogs have their own hierarchy...Sumo is the "boss" for now and it is quite obvious. I don't try and overwrite this or interfere...it is something they need to figure out. As for me being the "master"...I guess I am.

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    I am the master as i do most of the dog duties as i home most of the time. Lily often helps me to feed, bath, play,walk & show Floyd at doggy fun day events etc, Floyd loves all of the family members & he does obey their commands etc with out any fuss, but he does prefer me or Lily over OH or Jazz.

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    Before we got our pup I said to hubby 'you know when we get him I'll be the master' being the man he is he tried to tell me that he was the man of the house but in all reality we both know that I run this place lol.
    I'm the one who is home all the time and I do the feeding, training, bonding etc and, like in your situation DA, my partner has very little dog experience.
    My DH has been getting better and better with him though in regards to belly rubs and playing games and has even been giving him his breakfast the passed few mornings as he's been up early for work which is wonderful because I want them to bond but if we both stood at opposite sides of the room and called him he would definitely head for me.

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