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    Default I Am So Heartsick.

    I have learned something today that makes me so very very ill.
    I could have just quietly left this forum as I know very well what I am about to disclose goes against everything here that we all believe in with a passion. Unfortunately others do not share this.
    I am the one who is caught between a rock and a very hard place and I will need the support emotionally.

    I have been informed that Pretty is to be only left with one male pup. That my father in law, supported by my husband as they do not want the bother of a full litter to rehome etc will be coming in after whelping to remove and destroy remaining pups. Even if I bar the doors and stand over her with a shotgun I have to sleep sometime.

    If I do not like the idea, pretty will not be here staying but will be at the other farm and left to whelp where and where she does. This could mean in her cage in the shed at night, under the house wherever. If under the house then the pups will be taken after they emerge or when they get access to them.

    If here she has diet, me observing birth, vet called or her taken in if any complications but I have the heartache of knowing all bar one will be gone soon after and Pretty will be grieving either way wherever she is. I think it may be better to see the vet early next week re abortion. I guess an ultrasound will be able to tell us if this is still a safe option.

    I am crying, this goes against everything I stand for and believe in.
    I totally understand and agree with any outrage and condemnation this post will receive but that is not going to help her or me, as it will happen. The men are immovable on this.

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    Far Kennel

    I'd be loading Pretty up into the car and taking her to your favourite vet and swearing them to secrecy (to lie if necessary). If I couldn't drive, I'd be finding a friend who could.

    I don't understand the males in your household not wanting "the bother" of finding homes for the puppies when I'm sure you'd be willing to "bother". And the vet could probably help too.

    I'm glad I don't have men like that in my life. I think if you took matters into your own hands, they might understand how upset you are about it. I think it would rate as spouse/child abuse and you could get help finding a new home if it comes to that.

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    I drive and I have also rung the vet who is out on a job. I will be contacting him Mon and I am not afraid at all to do this. Thank god there is this option. FIL didn't want her bred to this dog anyway.

    It is farmer mentality, but then that is tarring all with same brush. I guess it is like this for them as the litter 15yrs ago was a planned one with a sire they wanted. it STINKS.
    Last edited by Di_dee1; 10-16-2009 at 04:23 PM.

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    I have a big PHEW here. Hubby told me what I said in first post just as he was on the way out the door. He is back, we have talked, I have put forward to him her age, the possible health risks/complications, the fact that they are only keeping a pup to keep Pretty happy, that they have never wanted a pup by Boris, and threw in the kicker that if there were to be complications it could very well cost as much as this procedure.

    He hadn't thought about it that much and now agrees.

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    Not sure how far she is, I think half wayish as she has only started to show the last week.

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    Oh hell, you think too late? I will be checking and now that I have recovered from being so totally floored it WILL happen if it is safe to do so. What's the worst that could happen, they get mad at me? Not as if that hasn't happened before, lol.

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    I think he realises that too lol. Told him it could be my Christmas pressy.

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    Phew, I'm glad at least Hubby has seen the light. I still wouldn't trust Pretty with your father though. I'm sure he's capable of thinking something like "I'll just fix this up, and she (you) will get over it".

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    No, he loves her too. That will never happen, I know him pretty well. He is my Father in law, not father. As I have never encountered this attitude with him re pups before as the last was planned it has come as a shock. I have seen him tear in eye over a dog's death.

    I guess that unknown pups just don't matter, disposable. Gees I hate that attitude. You see it too on bird boards. They will not spend money on vet bills as birds are cheap or hand feed a clutch if parent birds fail to in some way.

    I just wish she was mine then none of this shit would be happening.
    Last edited by Di_dee1; 10-16-2009 at 07:29 PM.

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    ooo, I can swear here. May need to later.

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