oh it's ok, i am still trying to be, if not leader, at least second in charge.. she reacts best with my husband, but she has had some training along the way. she's good with me out walking on a lead. she knows 'sit' and 'down', has almost mastered 'back up' as well, which may not be so new to her, as she is a large-ish dog. she stands back to let me through doors first, that sort of thing, she's a smart dog. she comes when i ask.
we shall see.. it's early days yet..