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    Default Time to rehome Brian :(

    After a lot of consideration, and a couple of broken bones in my feet, ive decided to rehome Brian. This has been a hard decision, to 'give up' so to speak, but i think the right one.
    Im sharing this story, honestly, humbly, with my tail between my legs as it were. I rescued Brian from a awful life, he arrived malnourished, scabby and bald in patches with yeast infection, staph infection, no training what so ever.
    7 months later, and he's a totally different dog. Healthy, happy and a right loon! Obedient, recalls nicely most of the time!, loves other dogs and people. He does however, break bones in my feet from lunging suddenly toward his targets; a stick, another dog to play with, or just sheer madness jumps me occasionally in excitement puppy antics. We've had my daughter over from uk with baby of 8 months, he's great with the baby. Figured out real fast, sitting underneath the highchair was his place, to catch the showers of dropped food. And he trained the baby to feed him this way within a couple of days.

    Put simply, i took on more than i can handle. Brian making the 3rd dog in our family. Ive had to admit, i am not strong enough, to handle 3 dogs that are strong large breeds, once Brian decides he's off, he takes off, drags me along, injuring me often. In my 50's, i am no longer bouncing when decked. I look like some domestic violence victim, covered in bruises most of the time. That's ok, but ive run out of sick leave for my foot, and not getting paid whilst off sick, is financially not viable for me. Ive gone back to work this week, with my foot like a football with swelling, wearing long trousers to hide my injury so i dont get sent home by management.

    So for past month, ive been sporting my 2nd broken foot bone from his antics, and a swollen painful shoulder, that is getting yanked around and this hinders my care of all of them. I have nobody else to exercise them, so im hobbling around the paddock, trying to tire them some, and doing mainly mental stimulation for them. And not enjoying the experience at all.

    I began to think of admitting defeat, but have remained ambivalent for a few weeks. Just in the back of my mind to pull the plug. I have met a couple through my son, who have a 1yr old desexed female Bordeaux already, looking for a 2nd. They have a small farm of cattle and horses, and so a dog that is desensitized to these, fits there requirements. Brian seems pretty bomb proof around livestock having been living here.
    The couple's bordeaux also has allergies and requires the more expensive raw grain free diet. So that was his downfall, which they accept.

    Today is the 'meet up' of the 2 dogs for the first time, to see how they react to each other. Im totally confident that Brian will not be aggro toward the other dog, but keen to ensure the other dog is fine with Brian. Dont want him bullied at his new home.
    Another large dog he can rough n tumble with would be great, as both of mine are on moderation management, i cant allow this sort of play here, as whilst pohm (rottie x bordeaux) would love to wrestle all day, her busted CL says not. (she's had the replacement knee op, but it busted again, so supposed to be 'retired'.)

    Im feeling so sad, to say goodbye to him. Disappointed that i couldnt make this work. And guilty, as ive never rehomed a dog of mine. Its not a nice day today.

    We've been for a nice long bike ride, as i cant walk on my foot at the moment. He's so good, following me on the bike these days. As its the only run he's getting currently. Ive been very up front with this couple, about his silly antics of lunging to go play/investigate whatever scent he's picked up. Advised them about how wind escalates this 'stupid' playful Brian that can injure folks in his clumsiness. They are still keen to try him.

    I was unsure what to do about selling him? I dont want anything for him, a good home is what im after, not money. But from being on here, knew that 'free' dogs can be taken by the wrong sort of folks for the wrong reasons. So when the couple first spoke to me, i pretended i was selling him. Now i know them, im sure they are dog lovers, and not looking for a fashion statement/fighting dog or any other horror scenario, ive advised he is free, then worried that perhaps i shouldnt of told them this, as it might make them more keen than they actually were? Id never forgive myself if he ended up in a bad home.

    Sometimes in life, we have to make hard decisions. This is one of those times. There is a large part of Brian lover in me, that wants to keep him at any cost.... but there is another sane me, that realises this new home, is a good alternative for Brian. Where he'll have a friend he can rough up, acreage, and a loving family awaits. And without him treading on my foot, yanking my shoulder, i will heal to walk my 2 once more.

    10am, is meet n greet on neutral ground, local towns oval. From the emailed pictures of his new female companion ive been sent, she's very relaxed with other dogs around her. Fingers crossed this works well for Brian. Whilst ive done all i can to ensure this is a good home, you never really know. How the hell do breeders do this with their pups? Its worrying the crap outta me with one to rehome.

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    I feel for ya Bernie. Breaks my heart just reading your post.

    When i took on Bronx i was sure i could handle to 2 big dogs easily but i soon realized i had underestimated things big time. I still ask myself "what was i thinking", when i'm getting jumped on by a dog who can sit me on my backside easily. Luckily for him he is the most loyal bugger i've ever owned. To leave him would break him. I cant do that and wont no matter what.

    Now owning 3 of the buggers ?? .... i can understand why your where your at. Sounds like you gave it your best shot mate and thats good enough for me.

    If it wasnt for or council limiting us to 2 dogs i could easily be in your situation. And i can imagine its a very difficult and sad situation for all of you guys. All i can do is wish you all the best of luck. When he's gone and you feel like shit, feel free to come and have a chat here. I'm sure we can help even just a little bit.

    If the new owners can offer a better home more suited to him ....... and with just as much love as you gave him.... then i cant see anything wrong with that.

    Cheers Bernie and dont beat yourself up please.


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    You have already done so much for him so don't feel bad. Sounds like he is going to a great home though with people who understand what he needs. Fingers crossed the meet up goes well!

    As for the selling price, is he desexed? Maybe make that the price or something... he needs to be desexed and they get the dog?

    Everything happens for a reason, you came into Brians life when he needed it the most and set him up for a great future

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    That's so sad, but it sounds as if you have really thought it through. The way I look at it is, that you've given him a new life. And even if it's now time for him to move on it is because of you that he can do so. There is no doubt in my mind that you'll make sure he goes to a good home. I would make sure though these people don't pass him on without informing you and giving you to chance to take him back if things don't work out - or change down the track.

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    Tough times Bernie, I hope the meet goes well and everyone falls in love. I had to rehome a dog years ago and it was bloody tough. Banjo was a rescue bull terrier cross who had been badly abused. She lived with me on my boat in Tassie while I completed study as a "mature age" student (ha, I must be super-mature age now as it was about 20 years ago!). She was the sweetest dog, loved by everyone in that little town. When I graduated I was offered a job in Samoa and had to make that tough decision. I had numerous offers from people who loved Banjo to take her in and in the end she went to a loving couple with a young daughter and another dog. I'll never forget them driving away with her and for long after I would pick up my keys expecting Banjo to come leaping like a pogo stick.

    Over the years I got postcards from the couple telling me Banjo was happy, getting fat, chasing rabbits, keeping grandma company in her illness, bringing joy to them all. She lived to about 15 and only died a few years ago. I never made it back to visit, which was probably a good thing as I believe they don't forget and it probably would have been hard for us all. Just last year the husband passed through Darwin on his yacht doing a round Australia sail. We caught up and he said that when they drove off with Banjo all those years ago she was up at the back window of the car looking back for the whole trip. When they got home she went behind the couch and wouldn't come out for days - finally being coaxed out with food (typical Banjo!) and then never looked back. That certainly put a lump in my throat, glad I hadn't known it at the time. But she had a great life, we all did! I went on to work all over the Pacific for years and then back in Australia on boats all around the north, in situations that could never accommodate a dog.

    Now I have the full tie-me-down - house, garden, 2 dogs. I still think of little Banjo staring out the car window and hiding under the couch wondering what was happening, but it was the right decision and I'm sure you'll know if your decision is the best for all.

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    You have done a fantastic job with Brian, Bernie. What a great gift for the new owners to get such a well trained dog, especially with him having been so hard to train! I hope this family can make Brian happy and then there really is nothing to feel guilty about. I felt guilty when I left our last foster at her new home. But I am sure I missed her way more than she missed us because she was just too busy having fun with her new friends.

    I personally wouldn't worry about giving him for free. Because you've already vetted these people and they sound like the kind who wouldn't let a few hundred bucks influence this decision? I think the rule only applies if your advertise or don't have the time or skills to assess the new owners.

    I'll miss your Brian stories! I wish him a happy life and you a fast recovery and the strength to move on.

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    Don't beat yourself up Bernie you have been honest about the challenge and given him a fabulous interim with humour and everything you could. If they are willing to pay towards some of the costs I would take it. I really hope the introduction goes well, I will also miss your Brian stories..lol
    As I recall a recent post had him self adopting with a nice man and his daughter if I recall right. I am sure you will miss him but you have nothing to reproach yourself for.
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    Some ambivalent news.....
    whilst the meeting went well here, and they took him. I received a phone call 3hrs later, to say there are issues, and she'll see how it goes tonight, but may have to return him in the morning.
    The issue: on return to their home, female dog wants to rough n tumble, brian doesnt, and growls at her lumbering all over him. She backs away, temp, then comes back to play, and he snaps at her with a growl. So as it 'wasnt going so well outside' they brought both dogs inside. (odd eh?) Brian has latched on to the bloke as his new protector and has his head on his lap. When girl dog comes over to say hi to her owner, Brian growled at her, and she backed away.

    So the woman rang me, described above. Clearly the woman is concerned for her bitches safety. She wants a dog that will rough house with her female, and doesnt think Brian is that sort of playfull dog as he growls 'every time she approaches'. < 3hrs into his new home, he's not playful is fine by my standard. Nor do i consider a growl or snap as a issue, or that the bitch is in any danger whatsoever. But its clear, that adding a 2nd dog, is a new experience, and perhaps they are not doing it as i would of. She mentioned that were due to go out tonight, but feel that the dogs are unsafe to be left together, so will lock the bitch inside when they go.
    Now im uneasy.
    First night in new home, and they planned to leave him? This is not sounding very experienced/knowledgeable dog home to me. Im worried.
    Their girl is very friendly, if a little in your face, and Brian is telling her off is my assessment.

    He's likely to be back in the morning. Yoyo Brian, yoyo emotions for me.

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    Oh bugger. Thats not want we wanted to hear.

    That is a bit silly of them. It took me 3 days of constant work to get the goofs to be nice to each other. Both dogs on leads ..... bit by bit. They didnt share a yard alone for a few months. Fingers and paws crossed it all works out well Bernie.


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    Brian is coming home!
    apparently, he wouldn't play with their dog. and when their dog tried to encourage play, Brian would just growl at her till she stopped barging him.
    And he's also very large compared to her < WTF?

    That's it. He's mine. I'll never subject him to this again. Sounded like a great home. But someone who throws 2 strange dogs together, and expects insta lurve, is perhaps always going to be disappointed.
    Poor Brian.

    Act of god stuff. He's been returned for a reason. I guess i'll have to work out some form of harness for him.

    So.....
    any suggestions on a harness for a mastiff breed? That would prevent lunging? never used a harness before except for a pulling one that i own.

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