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    Default Change in Behaviour

    I mentioned earlier that Mimi has a 'cousin' Kirby -my daughter's Golden Retriever who is 3 years old. They are the best of friends and Mimi is usually the one that gives him a hard time when playing. He submits to her poking and play biting, etc.. and loves it! These last couple of weeks, I noticed some changes in Kirby's behaviour. To give you an understanding of the story, I must give you some background.
    My son-in-law came home one day with a Puppy. He and my daughter lived in a ground floor appartment, had a garden but also had full time jobs and worked long hours. Kirby was born with a deformity in his left paw. Taking him for walks or to the park for any length of time was difficult as his paw hurt. As he grew older, the vet told them that they needed to consider an operation for Kirby's paw. To cut a long story short, he had his operation last year and became a NEW MAN!! He gained confidence, is now assertive, lost his shyness and was (and still is) a beautiful dog.
    Of course, as usual, he would be left in the yard in the morning until 7.00pm at night. Sometimes he had a walk, and I would guess most times, not.
    Since I do not work, and live 15 minutes away, I occasionally pick him up and take him and my two to the park for a good run. HE LOVES IT!
    I find that now when I turn up, he is so excited to see me that he literally doesn't know what to do... If it was a human child, I would say that he has ADHD. He has also become very possessive, jealous and combative. Yesterday, they were here for dinner, and Kirby bit Pepsi because she went to sniff his food (she had a scratch under her chin but is fine today). He attacked a dog on the beach twice because it came for us to pat it. Kirby would not (at the moment) attack dogs at the park for instance (unless they come too close to one of us - his family).
    My daughter intends to have a baby soon. I don't know how we are going to handle this situation. Should I go daily to walk Kirby and bring him over to stay with us during the day so he feels secure and his emotional and physical needs are met? Honestly, he is a big dog and requires a lot of attention.
    Any one have any suggestions on what to do? By the way, Mimi senses the change in him and is less playful with him.. she almost shuns him now.

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    OK,first things first

    Is he desexed and are his owners willing to put in some time with him?
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    Yes. He is desexed. Putting time with him is the problem. They both have very demanding jobs and work long hours. They would be lucky to spend (apart from the night when he sleeps indoors) a full day with him.

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    Hi Melba, you have lots of compounding issues here,
    he is 3 years old and at the stage of a teenage boy with attitude,
    he is left alone for long periods,
    he gets minimum exercise (should be walked twice a day)
    and only I assume a small back yard as it is an apartment

    Not to be offensive but they should not have this type of dog, I think you would be better to find a new home for Kirby with people who have time and space.

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    Sorry Melba but I agree with Bronx here.
    Poor Kirby will only continue getting worse if left to it . Are they approachable about having him rehomed?
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    Much much much more exercise needed. Maybe they can try re-homing him if they can't fit that in with their work.

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    Bronx, no offense taken. I totally agree with you, ChoppaChop and Nattylou too. I help as much as I can by taking him over to my house occasionally (without being asked). However, I cannot do it on a daily basis. He is too much of a handful and with my two (especially Mimi who is young), it is non stop playfighting. There is no way they will re-home him. They love him despite the fact that they have no time for him. Kirby is very spoilt (probably because they feel guilty) and buy him all sorts of expensive toys to compensate. I suggested they get a walker to do the job for them. I feel suffers from separation anxiety as when we take him to the Park or beach, he tends to look around and run towards people who look like his owners and follow their scent until he realizes it is not them. You can see him searching for them. I feel terrible.

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    Hi Melba, they willl never have a happy dog and when the babe comes it will get worse. My sister in-law had a staffie in the same situation, long hours away from home due to work and a small back yard they made the classic mistake and got another dog this just doubled the problem. It took a long time to convince them to give the staffie another home but he became aggresive with other dogs and kept breaking things like fences and gates to get out, finally they accepted he needed to to be in a better environment. He is now on a farm with 3 other dogs and he is at peace and loves it there. Their other dog is a bull dog and he is lazy and sleeps all day and is content to be alone but loves his weekends. If they love Kirby then they need to think of him and not themselves and give him what he needs. good luck Melba you have a hard job ahead.

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    Bronx. How true what you are saying is. At the moment they don't see Kirby as having a problem. Anyone else who looks at the state of their backyard would understand that this dog is in pain and is extremely lonely! He has made holes so deep that you would think he is digging for oil! It is so sad. I am glad you mentioned about your sister-in-law getting another dog thinking it would solve the problem... this is precisely what my son-in-law wants to do!! I'll have to talk to them about this very soon. Thanks for your advice Bronx, it is very much appreciated.

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    happy to assist Melba, I hope you can some how make this into a happy ending story

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