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    hello there,
    sadly my beautiful dog passed away yesterday as he was 15 and had to be put down.
    it was very sudden and he was showing no signs of sickness and was said to have been possibly
    'covering them up'.
    it was probably the worst say of my life, i am 18, and have had him since i was 3.
    he was my world, i adored him.he was very old and i accept that. every day i would wake up and kiss him good morning and
    good night. he would sleep on my bed and he would be the first thing i look for when i get home.
    i am grieving badly, i cried for 8 hours yesterday, and have been crying on and off today.
    can anyone help me with some tips on how i could get through this?

    he was said to be a maltese poodle x,
    his breed was never confirmed,
    could anyone also help me out, ill post a picture of him,
    maybe if you could help me figure out what his exact breed might be.

    photo.jpg

    thanks everyone,
    rest in peace baby boy,
    i miss you so much already.
    i love you
    xxxx

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    So sorry for your loss, Lily.
    He was a beautiful boy and has been your loving friend for nearly your whole life.
    You will need time to heal the pain you are feeling.
    Have you had a memorial service for him? Maybe its too soon but it can help sometimes.
    Maybe write a list of all the funny things he did and the love he enjoyed during his life.
    If he is buried at home you could plant a little garden around him with nice flowers or sea
    shells, driftwood etc if he was a beach lover.
    Again, sincere condolences and hugs.

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    I'm so sorry for your loss. Lots of us here have had to deal with the love of a loved dog and it is always incredibly hard. Your dog having been with you for most of your life would make it even more so.

    All I can say is that it will get easier. But everyone has to grieve for as long as necessary. One day you will be able to remember him with a smile. For now, cry as much as you need to.

    You are probably also in shock because it was so sudden. I had the same thing happen to my old dog last year - she seemed totally fine, got sick and died in a matter of hours. It is pretty traumatic and you keep wondering if there's anything you could've/should've done. But it was just his time to go. It is important to get past replaying in your head how he died and start thinking about the happy moments you had together.

    You will get through this. And he will always live on in your memory and in who you are.

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    Quote Originally Posted by chubbsecurity View Post
    So sorry for your loss, Lily.
    He was a beautiful boy and has been your loving friend for nearly your whole life.
    You will need time to heal the pain you are feeling.
    Have you had a memorial service for him? Maybe its too soon but it can help sometimes.
    Maybe write a list of all the funny things he did and the love he enjoyed during his life.
    If he is buried at home you could plant a little garden around him with nice flowers or sea
    shells, driftwood etc if he was a beach lover.
    Again, sincere condolences and hugs.
    thank you so much,
    i am so upset, this has just impacted on me so much.
    we have him buried at my place, ive put lots of roses on top,
    and put a rose on the box before we filled the hole.
    i plan on blowing up lots of beautiful pictures i have with him
    and maybe even making a scrap book of my little man.
    i feel he was so special, he was different to most dogs in my view,
    i felt like he understood me a lot more, and there was an eternal love there between up.
    i just want to hug him again.
    thank you so much for your support,
    i am feeling like it will be tough,
    i really appreciate it,
    thanks again x

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    Quote Originally Posted by Beloz View Post
    I'm so sorry for your loss. Lots of us here have had to deal with the love of a loved dog and it is always incredibly hard. Your dog having been with you for most of your life would make it even more so.

    All I can say is that it will get easier. But everyone has to grieve for as long as necessary. One day you will be able to remember him with a smile. For now, cry as much as you need to.

    You are probably also in shock because it was so sudden. I had the same thing happen to my old dog last year - she seemed totally fine, got sick and died in a matter of hours. It is pretty traumatic and you keep wondering if there's anything you could've/should've done. But it was just his time to go. It is important to get past replaying in your head how he died and start thinking about the happy moments you had together.

    You will get through this. And he will always live on in your memory and in who you are.
    thank you so much,
    its so much harder then i ever imagined.
    i guess i was ignoring the fact that the day would come when he would no long be there.
    i wanted him to be around forever. i felt like i should have been there for him, i had no idea he was sick,
    the vet said he was a strong little man who was covering up some sickness.
    i didnt find out what it was, it will remain a mystery, for now it is old age that got the better of him.
    i really do need to stop replaying yesterday, it was the worst day of my life, placing him into his grave broke my heart.
    he was my best friend.
    i need to remember him for the wonderful, special moments we had together.
    i was there for his first and last day. and i loved him for every second.

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    He was a lucky boy to have had such a long life and a loving family who adored him.
    Put his photos up here, on facebook, plaster him all over the internet.
    That helped me a lot - I wanted my boy to know he would never be forgotten.

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    Hi Lily

    Sorry you lost your heart-dog. 15years is really good going for a dog, he's had a great life. Glad he had caring people there to do the right thing in the end, no matter how hard it was for you.

    It doesn't really matter what breed he was - even if you got the exact same breed from the same family lines - that dog wouldn't be the same. And any new dog you get into your life - should be accepted for how they are and not compared to your heart-dog. If you want the best chance of getting a dog with similar temperament - you need to meet both the parent dogs and see what they're like.

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    I'm very sorry for your loss. Grieving for the loss of a beloved pet takes time.

    A good friend of mine once said to me 'remember not that they died, but that they lived'. Take comfort in the fact that you had 15 wonderful years together - a good age for a dog, with many years of memories to look back on.

    A huge piece is missing from your daily life & routine and it will take time and lots of tears before you are feeling like you are coping better.

    I know when I read posts like this it brings back very raw feelings of one of my dogs that passed away 8 months ago.

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    Lily Im so sorry for your loss.
    When I had to make the horrible decision to put my 22 year old cat to sleep, i cried for days. Then the crying got less and the memories of her doing silly things started to come and i would have a little smile and chukkle or i would find a furball stuck to my black pants as i was walking out the door to go to work. The pain never leaves you are able to handle it better(I have tears in my eyes writing this). Chin up lovely, hugs to you

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    I am so sorry and I totally know what you are feeling.
    What helped me most to deal with the death of my dog (he died at 15 years old) was to always keep in mind that we gave him the best life a dog could have. We cant do anything against old age sadly but we can do alot to make their time on earth as happy and comfortable and loving as we can. And by the sound of it you did that!
    Big hugs, I know how you feel and I wish there was a way to make it better.

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