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    Our puppy is currently 17 weeks old .She is generally well behaved around my husband and I , she does occasionally try to mouth or paw at us for attention and we would correct her and then walk away or say 'EH, EH'. She will stop immediately when corrected .

    But she is totally different around my father-in-law. She paws at him to the point of scratching him , mouths at his hands , jumps on him . He would yell at her and she would just persist more. My father-in-law adores her and insists that i let her spend time with him on the couch together but this is always what happens when they spend time together.

    Also , once when he got up from the couch to get a drink, she pooped on his spot ,on the couch to my horror .And i have also caught her attempting to defecate in his room several times. She never tries to do this anywhere else and she is 90% potty trained .

    I do keep a very close eye on her all day long and put her in her crate when i cannot watch her. She is good as gold and then when it is couch time with the father-in-law this happens. The father-in-law is already complaining about her pawing and mouthing at him , it really looks like she is venting on him when she does that.

    Should i just not allow puppy to spend time with him on the couch at all ? Is there anyway i can fix this ,my puppy behaves like a brat around him.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Luckycow View Post
    ...Should i just not allow puppy to spend time with him on the couch at all ? Is there anyway i can fix this ,my puppy behaves like a brat around him.
    This is like children that know that Grandpa's rules aren't the same as mum and dad's rules.

    You have two critters to train here. And I'm wondering how well house trained your Father in Law (FIL) is. Whether the area around him smells a bit like somewhere a dog should crap.

    My dog, when stressed or excited (eg someone else's place with dogs) - sometimes craps or pees where she should not. Usually she will find some place she considers "not part of the house" - so we don't always find it immediately because it's out of the way. Sometimes she does this just after she's done a nice pee outside, so it might be "marking territory" or "leaving messages for other dogs/critters".

    So if I know that my dog might forget she's housetrained or not figure out which bit of her environment is house and not to be soiled - I need to be extra vigilant about her toilet time and opportunities to toilet when I'm not paying attention. So she goes in her crate when I can't be paying attention. She's never soiled in her crate. Some dogs will though, but it's often dogs that have lived in filthy conditions so they don't know any different. Over time they learn not to, and crates are fairly easy clean.

    With the FIL - you have to train him to ask the puppydog to do something more acceptable by way of greeting than chomping on him and pooping in his seat (are you sure his undies are clean?).

    So you might set a rule that your puppy has to hold a nice sit stay and maybe shake hands before she is allowed up on the couch. It might also be a good idea if she doesn't share the couch with him at all for a while.

    If he still wants her up at his level maybe you could get a dog sized footstool or something that isn't the couch that she can sit on instead. Ie this is the dogs place, and this is the humans place, and we're not mixing them up for now. Some people use those big round camping chairs.

    If you're still having trouble then all meetings and greetings might have to be fully supervised and onlead until puppy or FIL learn the rules. Cos what gets let go as a puppy - only gets worse as an adult but isn't cute then. Start now with the boundaries as you mean to go on with the adult dog. Jumping up is not cute with a big dog.

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    hyacynth, that reply was priceless! i spewed my coffee when i read it. great start to my day, in laws with skid marks.

    Id be keeping any dog, that's too big for its boots with all 4 paws on the ground lol, and shit on my sofa ONCE, and i dont care how cute the critter/shitter is, it aint sitting there again! FIL included.

    16 weeks is when my dogs (large) breeds, milk teeth have fallen out, lots of bones, to get rid of them all safely might help. FIL sounds like a dog lover to me, let him deal with pup, keep pup on leash would be my advice during visit. So pup doesnt sneak off to crap a welcome parcel in house. At the end of playing, ie. movement, my dogs will often crap then, is your dog getting hyper? shot with adrenalin, that moves bowels?

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    You guys are so funny lol. FIL is a HUGE dog lover, so much that he hates cats. I caught him letting her lick his dinner plate clean and he is always trying to sneak her table food.I have resolved this by keeping her in her crate/outside during meal times.She is very good with her crate , has never soiled her crate as well. I am going to take advice from you two and puppy is not allowed on the couch anymore until she has learned her boundaries.

    FIL is the tougher one here , he does not listen to me and goes suddenly 'deaf' . There was once where he sneaked her a grape too , needless to say i was up all night worrying . Puppy turned out okay, but never again am i going to let this happen! Told him how bad grapes are for dogs and his response was 'a few won't hurt them' . ARGH.

    She does get excited when its the FIL , and when she pooped on the couch that one time , she looked really happy and smiley and actually 'beckoned' me to look at her poop . It's like she's saying 'Look what i made for granpa ? Isn't it lovely?'.It took a lot not to laugh /cry . And she was always trying to sneak into his room to defecate. I suppose that could be her marking his area , as she still sneaks in there after a recent pee/poop. To be fair , FIL has a bottle where he pees in by his bed and she always tries to go near that bottle .

    I will put her on lead when she is around him starting now. Puppy is being clicker trained and is fairly well behaved except when she is overly excited. Her milk teeth are falling out at the moment, so i will take bernie's advice and give her more raw bones to gnaw on, instead of her gnawing on FIL. She gets bully sticks , puppy nylabone and kangaroo tail as of now.

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    what kind of dog is it?

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    Quote Originally Posted by goggles View Post
    what kind of dog is it?
    She's a rough collie

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    she's a rough collie, she'll figure it out. I have 3 dogs, 3 adults living in same home. All 3 adults have different boundaries with the dogs. The dogs perform to each of our individual boundaries fine.
    My son's dog, never tread on carpet here, or go on sofa's, yet at home they run all over it, including the bloody dining table! Dog really do work out, who the weak links are, FAST.
    FIL is having fun. Pup's having fun. the odd turd, doesnt sound too serious. Nip it in the bud though.

    show us a pic. My first dog was a rough collie called Mac. Died at 16yrs of age, on my wedding day? a omen perhaps?

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    I love all dogs but for some reason i am really attracted to the herding breeds. We only have 1 puppy,5 guinea pigs and 3 adults under 1 roof . That is weird how your first dog died on your wedding day,maybe he felt that his life was fulfilled. When my father passed away several years ago , our family dog (Cotton) ,would still wait and watch for him to return home in his car , he would get excited if similar cars drove past our home. And a year later , Cotton died a few days away from the date of my father's death anniversary. Cotton was 14yrs old. I like to think that they are in each other's company now.

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    Here's some pictures of the naughty girl .

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    She's beautiful.

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    Luckycow

    That's such a sweet story about your father and his dog. Reminds me of the Red Dog movie story (sad sad at the beginning middle and end with lots of laughs between)...

    I keep forgetting the basic puppy house training - ie outside after play, after waking, after eating, after drinking - act boring until got your Shitnapiss, and then puppy can come back inside.

    I had to have all greetings with new or novel people outside with my puppy until she was about 6 months old because she'd just wet herself with excitement.

    If your father is keeping pee in his room, maybe he'd like to empty it round the back yard with the puppy so she learns that's where it's supposed to be. Otherwise - he's going to have to keep his door shut, all the time. Maybe put a door closer on it. (Beware shutting the dog in)

    All the best with it, do keep us updated - she's so cute. I've got a soft spot for Merles - maybe cos they look a bit like cattle dogs.

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