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    First of all I'm sorry my second only post on here has to be so sad but I wanted some other dog lover's opinions.

    I posted a while ago about my 5 yr old lab, Holly. She had what the vet called a doggie cold and ear infection back in early Jan. Sadly it appears there was something much worse going on and, after having been referred to a specialist we have been told Holly has an, as yet, undiagnosed neurological condition which appears to be degenerative.

    After having a cough for many weeks she started to stumble occasionally on our tiled floors and gradually over the last 2 months she can now hardly walk at all. She manages to have 2 very short walks (she's manages better on grass) a day. Other than that she lies in one place pretty much the rest of the time. She might move a few feet to change position but that's pretty much it. I hand feed her twice a day which she is still keen to do (she is a lab afterall). Every time she drinks, she brings most of it back up along with half of the food I will have fed her earlier. She is now only 21 kgs and you can feel all her bones.

    She was given a test for Neosporosis which came back as a weak positive and has been on antibiotics for a month now and she is on steroids twice a day. Neither appeared to have improved her condition at all. I get the impression from the vet that there is not much more we can do for her. Any further procedures to help diagnose her would be quite traumatic for her and we would only be diagnosing an incurable condition anyway. All the curable one's have been ruled out.

    My reason for the post, really, was when should I decide enough is enough. I agonize daily over whether her quality of life is good enough to keep holding on to her. Sometimes I think I'm being selfish because I don't want to watch her deteriorate anymore, then other times I think I'm being selfish not letting her go. I just don't know what to do. I know it is obviously my decision to make but I just wondered what other people thought, or have done in similar situations.

    Thanks for listening
    Last edited by Tkay; 05-25-2010 at 10:57 AM.

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    this is terrible.

    I really dont know what i would do in your situation, the only thing i can suggest before you completly give up hope and have to let her go is go see a holistic vet.

    Some antibiotics in animals can do more harm then good as they are not manufactured to human standards and can have alot of nasty stuff in them which is meant to 'help'

    I know many cases of people going to holistic vets and getting more natural remedies that have fixed life threatening problems. It might sound like a last hope or grasping at straws but what have you got to loose other then your precious pup.
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    Hi,

    How sad and she is still soo young.

    With my old girl...I knew she'd had enough when she couldn't walk anymore...but the difference here is my girl was 14.

    I agree with Dobbiegirl...get another opinion before anything else.
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    Hi

    I am so sorry for you and Holly I understand how you feel, how difficult it is and all the soul searching and heartbreak that goes along with a dear friend who is so unwell.

    I have always focused on quality of life.

    My Russ bless his soul had cancer. When his quality of life was not what he enjoyed and he was ready to be given his wings we went for a last car ride (his favourite) ate his favourite foods and spent every moment cherishing each other. The vet came to our home and Russ died in my arms. His death was so very dignified and meaningful.

    I bought a beautiful sandstone seat that sits over his grave in his favourite place in the garden. I often sit there with him and the two rescues who were also given their wings through illness.

    You are a wonderful Mum, and will make the right decision for Holly.

    Love and hugs to you and Holly

    Nic
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    I would say the same as Billy... It's very hard to watch a young ones life degenerate like that... I would bite the bullet and do what I think would be the kindest thing to do with dignity.. It's a very hard decision to make.. If you have any doubts about what the vets had said, then put your mind at ease and get just one more opinion before making a final choice for your beloved pet..

    with much sympathty, peter...

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    She will tell you, but will you be ready to see it?

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    As long as you are sure. Doubts later are not good.
    You'll do the right thing for her - you know and love her best.

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    So, so sorry to hear what you're going through!
    All i can say is that you will know when it's the right time to let her go.
    BUT i would get a 2nd opinion!
    With sincere sympathy
    Mag.

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    There are always doubts later...doubts and guilt...it doesn't mean you haven't done the right thing, it just makes you human.

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    Thanks for all your replies. Holly was having a particularly bad couple of days when I posted. She has been a little brighter the last 2 days, not quite so sick, although still having great difficulty walking. I have ordered some dog boots which I am hoping will help her on our slippy tiles.

    I think it's not knowing what is wrong with her that is making everything so difficult. There have been cases of neurological symptoms spontaneously getting better so I guess we have been hoping for that. As time goes on this is looking less likely but I think I have to wait a bit longer before I give up on her. If we knew for sure whatever she had was terminal it might make the decision a little easier.

    She has finished her antibiotics now and I am reducing her steroids with the intention of weaning her off those as well. They aren't doing her any good so maybe if we just take all the meds away we can see how she fares on her own.

    I have been looking into the holistic vet approach. Can anyone recommend one in the Sunshine coast area?

    Thanks again for listening, I will keep you posted
    Last edited by Tkay; 05-25-2010 at 10:57 AM.

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